Missing the Structure of Spanking

It's been so long since J and I have had any real spanking schedule or anything DD related, at all. Things just keep getting in the way.

The latest is J's job has him traveling more than normal. So far I've been able to go with him on several trips, but there's not a lot we can do in a hotel room that doesn't make noise.

I'm finding myself starting to miss the structure of having consequences. I like the routine of reminder spankings.

J has been wanting to spank me lately, but there has not been the opportunity. I did get my pussy spanked briefly a few days ago. J wanted a blow job before bed and I just wasn't in the mood. I said no, and J immediately flipped me over onto my back and hand-spanked my pussy. He reminded me of our agreement and told me I was in desperate need of a spanking.

We could start back on a schedule this week, but J has a trip coming up that I am unable to go on, so I don't want to get started back into a routine just to have to take a 2-week break again so soon. Sigh.

Foot Update and a Spanking

My foot is mostly better, I've had lots of physical therapy and I can walk around a bit more now. J and I still haven't really been able to get back into things; it's surprising how hard it is to get into certain positions with an injured foot. It's like I'm missing a whole leg. Not only can my foot not bear a lot of weight/pressure, but my whole leg is weaker from lack of use, so it's harder to support myself in different positions that I'm used to.

J did, however, find a way to spank me today. He said he thought I really needed it (which I did). We were laying on our bed and my legs were dangling over the edge, so there was no pressure on my foot or leg. He spread open my legs and spanked my pussy. It wasn't hard, but it stung. I could not stay still either. J said I was squirming much more than usual, which tells him I am too much out of practice. He said he will need to remedy that.

I then stood in front of J and he bent me over slightly, so that I was pretty much standing, but putting most of my weight on my hands, leaning on the bed. He grabbed a nearby wooden brush and paddled me with the flat side of it.

It wasn't very long, but it was a definite reminder that I shouldn't let myself become lazy or neglect my chores (at least the ones I'm able to do with a broken foot!)

Back Home and Finally Alone!

Before we left for the beach, my brother told us he's moving in with his girlfriend! He doesn't have very many belongings, so his move was quick and easy.

We are finally alone again!

While we were away J told me that we were going back to regular, reminder spankings. I was under the impression that we were going to be returning to our former schedule of 3 reminder spankings a week plus one pussy spanking. But J informed me that I'd be getting spanked every day, until further notice!

The first week was mostly spent getting back into routine. I was spanked every day Monday through Friday. Wednesday I also got a pussy spanking. I struggled a little bit during the week. I did not want to be spanked every day. And by the end of the week I was so sore!

But on the other hand, my to do list was done, plus I even had time to do EXTRA! That part was fantastic.

This week started and J said we would again have daily reminder spankings. Monday wasn't too bad, but Tuesday hurt like crazy! I am very sore from all these spankings!

Mostly J has been reminding me of why we are doing this. As much as I don't like the spankings, something is definitely working, because I have been able to complete my chores and daily to do lists with tons of extra time to spare!

Last night, right before bed, J told me to take off my clothes and lay on the bed. He started playing with my clit the way I love him to. He was asking me whose pussy it was, and I replied "yours". It was so hot. Then, right before I was about to cum, he stopped and told me to take over. I did and he spanked my pussy very hard and said CUM! I had barely just gotten my fingers in place! He then proceeded to spank my pussy really fast and hard without stopping and kept telling me to cum. I didn't cum right away, but it was much quicker than normal, and it was intense! This is definitely J's new favorite game.

Ahhhh...it's good to be back home and back on track.

Birthday Spanking Week (Part 4)

(Read Part 1 Here)

(Read Part 2 Here)

(Read Part 3 Here)

Wednesday I was woken up with kisses and flowers. They smelled so sweet and filled the whole room. While I was still laying in bed, J gave me a nice, sensual full body massage, which turned into some fantastic sex. What a wonderful way to wake up on my birthday!

We had a small breakfast and took showers, and afterwards J reached over to me and started to put on my collar & leash. He hesitated and said, "We don't have to do this if you don't want to. If you want to spend your birthday some other way."

I gave him a quick kiss and told him I was all his.

He led me out to the deck and told me to kneel. I did and he fucked my face for just a few minutes. He then led me off the deck onto the grass and had me crawl around the yard on all fours, with him pulling on the leash. We don't often do things like that, but it was exciting being outside. It's very private and no one can see us, but it still feels exhibition-like. A few times he swatted my ass, as I was crawling and I was afraid the sound would carry. But it wasn't likely anyone would be able to tell where exactly it was coming from.

We spent a lot of time outside since the weather was perfectly warm and breezy. One thing J likes to do is open my pussy lips very wide and just hold them there. It makes me feel very exposed. Every time he did that, I could feel the breeze on my clit. It was just enough so I could feel it, but too light of a sensation to do any good. It was making me want to reach down and apply the right amount of pressure so that I could cum. But when I suggested this to J, he said no.

A few hours later, we went back in the house and J said I was going to finish what was started outside. He layed on the couch and I knelt next to him. He grabbed the leash and pulled me down to him. He reached around to the back of my head and guided me right to his cock. I hesitated and he said "Open."

I opened my mouth and he easily slid in. It didn't take very long for him to cum, since he'd been on the verge for hours.

He told me we had just enough time for one more spanking, before we had to leave. He arranged me over the ottoman and gave me a nice long warm up with his hand. He then alternated between a small wooden paddle and our leather strap. He spanked me for a very long time. It felt like an hour. Since my legs were spread wide, he also had access to my pussy, and he made sure to swat there a few times with his hand, in between swats to my ass with the paddle & strap. J said he wanted to ensure I would be ready to start back to our old schedule next week.

After my spanking, J said he would like to see me make myself cum. I flipped over on the ottoman, and started rubbing my clit. J watched me for a few minutes, and then gave me a quick swat with his hand. "Cum," he commanded. I can never cum on cue, but J likes to make me try. And once he thinks it's time, he spanks my pussy, without stopping, until I do cum. My pussy was getting sore like he spanked it for hours, but I think it only took about 4 minutes!

J let me lay on the ottoman for awhile to recover while he loaded the car. Before we left, I got dressed in regular clothes, which felt really strange. J took my collar and leash off, but he said I was going to be wearing the cock gag the whole way home. I gave him an alarmed look, but he assured me that it would be dark, and no one would be able to see me. He wasn't going to buckle the strap in the back, and if we came to any well lit areas, I could remove it. Same for toll booths or if we got pulled over.

I was sad about going back home, but at the same time glad to know that next week I would be back on track and getting things accomplished. And I had such a fun birthday week, both with our friends, and after they left!

Birthday Spanking Week (Part 3)

(Read Part 1 Here)

(Read Part 2 Here)

Part 3

Tuesday started out much like Monday with breakfast, then me on my knees in the shower, followed by air drying on the deck.

After being naked for a couple of days it starts to become less noticeable to me. I become a little more comfortable, though it makes going anywhere impossible. J came out to the deck with my collar and leash. Once they were on, he led me back into the house, and directly over his knee. He gave me a good warm up hand spanking. The whole time reminding me of what I agreed to, and what tasks I was supposed to be accomplishing every day. I felt him reach down next to him and the next thing I felt was one of his paddles on my ass. I haven't felt that in a long time and I had forgotten how much it hurts! J didn't spank hard, but he spanked long. I didn't think it was ever going to end.

Once J was done spanking my ass, he immediately led me into the guest bedroom, layed me over some pillows on the bed, face up and began spanking my pussy with his hand. "Who's pussy is this?" he asked me. "Yours," I responded meekly. J held my lips open with one hand and slapped my clit with his other. That really hurts! But at the same time I've been constantly just on the verge of cumming.

J told me to cross my legs at my ankles. I did and he grabbed them and lifted my legs up and started spanking me in the "diaper position". I think he's only ever done that once before, so it was unexpected. Each slap was just grazing the small part of my pussy that peeks through my closed legs. He then let go of my legs, but told me to hold them up. I heard the rattle of his belt. There is something about that sound that terrifies me and turns me on at the same time. J knows this so he makes sure to do it slowly and make sure I hear every bit of the sounds it makes. I could hear him undoing the buckle and pulling it through the loops. I was nervous. It's so rare that J uses the belt on me and I'm out of practice and I'm already sore. I wasn't sure if I could do this. J grabbed ahold of my legs again and I felt the first thwack of the belt. I yelped. One more thwack and J said that was enough of that for now.

Getting spanked is exhausting. I don't know why but so often I feel tired after getting a good spanking, and this was no exception. J told me to take a nap, which I happily did.

I was woken up an hour later by J licking my pussy. I was still laying on the edge of the bed, and I guess it was too much for him to resist. He fucked me with his tongue until I was fully satisfied. I almost felt like I needed another nap after that, but J had other plans. He told me he wanted to train my mouth to make sure my jaw would get used to being opened a lot, so I was always ready for him. As he was telling me this, he was inserting my cock gag and attaching the buckle behind my head. The cock gag isn't huge, but it does make my mouth feel like it's being stretched. He told me I'd be wearing that for most of the rest of the day.

We were both getting hungry, so J decided we'd have a quick bite on the deck. First we went into the kitchen and he had me bend over the table and spread my legs wide so he could see me while he was making the sandwiches. I was feeling vulnerable and sexy at the same time. He took the sandwiches and my leash and led me out onto the deck. I took the gag out only long enough to eat the sandwich and have a glass of water, then it was placed right back in my mouth.

We didn't do much of anything else for the rest of the afternoon, just watched TV and read some, though I did have the gag in the whole time.

We decided to have pizza for dinner, but we had to go pick it up. J had me put my wrap around skirt on as a dress, so I tied it under my arms and just let it hang. It barely covered my ass, but thankfully I didn't have to get out of the car. He also handed me my cock pacifier and told me he didn't want me to be without a cock in my mouth for that long. On the ride there, J pushed the skirt open at the slit so the whole front of me was exposed. He told me to spread my legs, and keep them spread. The pacifier just looks like a regular pacifier on the end that's not in my mouth, but still I am obviously a grown woman, so it still doesn't look normal! I tried to sink low in the seat and just hope no one noticed. I was allowed to cover myself up when we got to the parking lot, but I still had to keep the pacifier in. I know people saw.

After dinner J suggested we go to the beach. There's a private beach near the house that we can walk to. I like seeing the moon reflecting on the ocean at night, so of course I agreed. J again told me to wear my wrap around skirt as a dress, nothing underneath. And again he put the pacifier in my mouth. When we got to the beach we set our chairs near the water line. J arranged my skirt so that my whole front was exposed. The moon wasn't very bright so I don't think anyone would have been able to see me unless they got close, and by then we'd have seen them. We sat there for hours enjoying the night and each other.

(...to be continued)

I'll post Part 4 soon. It's the last day of our vacation and of my birthday spanking adventure. I can't wait to finish it, so I can tell you what's been happening THIS week.

Birthday Spanking Week (Part 2)

(Read Part 1 Here)

J said I was allowed to get dressed to go to dinner, but he was deciding what I would wear. He picked out a wrap around skirt and a tank top. Nothing underneath. Sandals on my feet. We walked to a small family owned Italian place just down the street.

While we were waiting for our food, J took my hand and simply said, "Next Monday."

"What's next Monday?"

"We start your reminder spankings again. You go back to being held accountable. We go back to our way."

"Oh," was all I could say.

J asked me if I did not want to (which is always an option I have).

"It's not that," I explained, "I'm just so out of practice, it makes me nervous."

J reassured me, as he always does, that he would never push me too hard, too fast. He knows my limits and he knows ME.

And then with a chuckle, he said, "Besides, after the next couple of days you won't be so out of practice."

Gulp!

I always wonder if anyone ever overhears us when we're discussing spankings in public. We are aware of who's around us and we speak in low voices, but you never know who is eavesdropping. I can only imagine what they would be thinking if the overheard the conversation we just had. Reminder spankings??? What??? lol.

On the way back to the house, J had me turn my skirt so that the slit was in front. You couldn't really see much, but if you were looking closely when I took a step, the slit opened just enough so that I was totally exposed for half a second. J kept walking backwards, in front of me, so that he could watch. It made my face turn red, but also made me giggle.

The second J opened the door, he said "Clothes." And I stripped once again.

I watched as J retrieved the bag from the living room. He pulled out my collar and fastened it around my neck. He then attached the leash. He started reminding me of many of the things we used to do, games we played, S/M stuff, D/s stuff, DD stuff. As he was telling me, he was leading me around the house. I was dripping wet.

When we got to the end of the hall, he led me into the master bedroom with the big 4 poster bed. I saw the straps attached to each post. J laid me spread eagle on the bed and put my wrists and ankles in the straps. He grabbed a leather slapper that I hadn't noticed, from the dresser, and started gently slapping my pussy. He gradually increased the speed and intensity until I was squirming against the restraints. Then he abruptly stopped. I asked him if I could please cum. He said no.

He uncuffed me and led me back to the living room, straight into a corner. He told me I needed to think about the events of the past day and the things we discussed. He wanted to make sure I was ready to start again, since we've only been half-assing it for the past several months. My mind always wanders when I'm standing in the corner. I have a hard time focusing when I'm just standing there doing nothing. But this time I was able to concentrate and I did think about everything we talked about and did. It's nothing new, we were just out of practice. We both already know we like it that way, so what was there to think about?

After 15 minutes in the corner, J called me to him. We talked for hours for the rest of the evening about everything and as usual we're on the same page.

(to be continued...)

Weekends Free to Play!

My brother started seeing a girl a few months ago off and on, and they're to the point where he's been spending weekends at her house. So we have had the last 2 weekends to ourselves. It's been a lot of fun.

J has wanted to spend time on my submission (or lack of), especially with regard to sex. Early on Saturday J gave me a quick pussy spanking. He says he wanted to just put me in a certain mood without making it a punishment. He also let me know we were going to spend the day practicing my submission.

One of the things J has a lot of fun with is trying to make me cum on his cue. Just sort of randomly throughout Saturday he would lead me into the bedroom and tell me I was masturbate, using only my hand. His instructions were to cum when he told me to. I never do well at this game, and this past weekend was no exception.

Each time immediately after I started, J gave my pussy a few light swats. Each one reminded me of my earlier spanking. J is very familiar with how long it normally takes me to cum, but since I already had multiple orgasms it was taking me longer and longer each time. J would decide when it was long enough and would tell me to cum. When I didn't, he'd start spanking my pussy in a consistent pattern. He said he was going to spank me until I came. And he was true to his word. Every. Time. When I did reach my climaxes I came very hard. They were fantastic and exhausting at the same time.

It was a fun weekend, feeling close to J and just being able to be alone without anyone else in the house. I'm already looking forward to next weekend!

Punished for Lack of Submission

We had another night alone, last night, since my brother spent the night out. J didn't waste any time telling me we needed to discuss something. Uh oh.

He led me into the bedroom and we sat down on the bed, facing each other. J said that he realizes with my brother being here I've had virtually no spanking, so he's been lenient. My motivation level is way down, which I'm getting a pass on right now, but my submission level is also down. Not that I'm being all disrespectful, but I have been consistently turning J down for sexual things. And that is a big no no...something we agreed on a long time ago. I mostly blame it on my brother being here, but we have had plenty of quiet sex with people in the house before, and I know it and J knows it. It's just an excuse and it's solely due to me being lazy and not "feeling like it".

As I've said in the past, even when I'm not in the mood, once we start anything sexual I get in the mood in real quick! Like 99.9% of the time. And I'm always glad we did it. That's one of the reasons J and I agreed that unless I was not feeling well or was in some way distressed, I would not refuse any of his sexual advances. And it's worked out great!

Except part of it working well is me getting reminder spankings multiple times a week and pussy spankings once a week. It helps me stay motivated in day to day life, and sexually with J. And we haven't been able to stay on our regular spanking schedule because my brother has been staying here.

Since we had a night alone, J told me I was going to get a pussy spanking. He said it was going to be a punishment, for lack of submission, but since I was so out of practice he would do it more like one of our reminder spankings. I almost cried right there! I haven't had a real spanking there in months! And I recently shaved, so I didn't even have any hair as a cushion!

I slowly undressed and got into position. There was no warmup and J swatted me with his hand a few quick sting-y times in a row. I could not hold still and was squirming all over the place. I thought J was going to have to get the spreader bar, but instead he propped my legs up in a way that I couldn't close them. I still had a hard time staying still. J spanked every inch of my pussy, he spread my lips and spanked the insides of them, and he spanked my clit. I could tell it was light but it sure didn't feel light!

The entire time J reminded me of our agreement. He reminded me that I gave him my pussy and told him he could have access to me whenever he wanted to. He asked me if I was still happy with our agreement. Yes! Of course!

J continued with the spanking.

Afterwards I was led to the corner, where I've only stood once or twice in the past several months. It felt strange. J told me to stand there and think about the conversation we just had and the reason I just got my pussy spanked.

The 15 minutes in the corner seemed like 2 hours. J finally called me back into the bedroom. He asked me how I felt. I sort of laughed and said "like I want to fuck your brains out!" J laughed too and we slid back onto the bed and I got to do just what I wanted!

Back to the spanking schedule

J feels that I've been motivated and progressing well toward my goals each day, so we are back to 3 reminder spankings a week. He spanked me extra hard on Monday, to be sure I'd be thinking about it until Wednesday. I have been gradually feeling more motivated. The more things I can accomplish, the more motivated I feel. I don't know why I need to be spanked, but when I don't have those consequences I slack off immediately!

We've also been working on my submission, which I've mentioned before. Often J is very lenient and gives me many chances to do what he says. It's pretty common that I will hem and haw and he will say "Do you want your pussy spanked?" And I will say no, and we will go back and forth like that until I eventually do as I'm told.

But over the weekend, I got a glimpse of a much more strict J. He asked me to show him my tits. I hesitated for a second and he very calmly grabbed my hand and let me into the bedroom. Without a word he laid me back on the bed, took off my pants and proceeded to spank my pussy with his hand. He switched over to the ruler and spanked for probably 5 straight minutes without stopping! He reminded me that I asked to be punished when I did not comply with what he was telling me to do. He asked me several times if I understood and agreed. Of course I did. The pussy spanking didn't last very long, but it was hard and fast. When he was done, he told me to come into the office. I was allowed to put my pants back on, but no shirt. J placed me on a stool next to his desk, in sort of a time-out for 10 minutes while we talked about our agreement. He had his hands on my tits during the whole lecture. I was not allowed a shirt until the next morning.

Spanking week 2

J decided this week was going to be a repeat of last week, as far as spankings go. He says I'm doing great with getting my to-do list completed, but thinks I'm still not quite as motivated as I should be. And I agree. He also upped by bedtime, just by 15 minutes for now, to help me get moving a bit earlier in the day.

So I will be spanked every day this week, plus pussy spanked 3 times, and immediately after I will give J a blow job. He says after this week if I'm back to being as motivated as I need to be, we can resume our old schedule of 3 reminder spankings a week.

We are also working on my level of sexual submission to J. I want to get back to the point where my body is available to him whenever he wants it. I used to always be game for sex, but now I just feel old and fat. I find that when the choice is made for me, I can get past any grumpy feelings I might be having and get right to the fun parts.

Over the weekend, J presented me with a pacifier that has a penis as the rubber part that goes in your mouth. We don't get into the age play scene, but as part of my submission, J will sometimes treat me like a child.

Today he told me I was to place the pacifier in my mouth before I left the house and keep it there anytime I was in the car. Of course no one can see the penis part when it's in my mouth, but they can still see a grown woman with a pacifier in her mouth! And it's not easy to hide - it's got a big, baby blue, plastic ring. Here is a picture of it:

I drove with it all the way to the Post Office and back with it securely in my mouth, and it seems like I hit every red light and a lot of traffic.

I feel like everyone saw me.

I don't even know what they thought.

4 Days of Spankings, so far

My ass is very sore from being spanked 4 days in a row. I have one more day of spanking tomorrow and then J will decide how we will proceed next week. The spankings have increased in intensity throughout the week, so I'm looking forward to the break this weekend.

I have been getting my to do lists done, but it's been a struggle; I'm just barely motivated, and find myself having to rush to get things done before I have to be in bed.

It has been nice having everything finished each day. I can go to bed knowing the house is clean and I can start the next day fresh, without anything hanging over my head.

After my spankings, J has been sending me to the corner. I am supposed to think about how these reminder spankings are keeping me motivated, and all the reasons we choose to live this way. I have a really hard time with that. My mind wanders almost instantly. And I end up thinking about everything except for what I'm supposed to be thinking about.

I have one more pussy spanking left tomorrow. That hasn't been too bad, because I've been getting a 1 day break in between. The last one for the week is tomorrow, and it'll probably be the most severe of the week, since J will want the reminder to stick with me until the next time I get a pussy spanking.

J texted me in the middle of the day today and told me to masturbate. At first I felt like I didn't have time, but it turned out to be a welcome break in my day. And who doesn't like having orgasms? lol.

I see J embracing his role again, and it makes me proud and happy to know that he's so comfortable and natural doing what's best for us.

Back to our Spanking Routine, day 1

Promptly at 6pm, J instructed me to go to the bedroom and take off my clothes. He had already arranged many of our implements on the bed. He was clearly ready to start back up with our version of DD.

Once I was face down, J started with a brief lecture. He reminded me that I am to stay motivated to achieve my daily goals and complete my daily to do list. And if I do not, there will be consequences. He started spanking me gently, due to my not having been consistently spanked for several months. He continued the lecture saying that when he holds me accountable, he finds that he is more motivated and holds himself at a higher standard. So it is very important that we stay on track.

He also reminded me that whining will not be tolerated. If I whine, J will make sure to find something else for me to do with my mouth (with an option to also spank me).

J increased the speed and intensity of the spanking, and repeated the lecture a few more times. My ass was definitely sensitive and I was squirming and fussing. At one point J used his hand to spank me really quickly one right after the other on one cheek, and then the same on the other cheek. It made me feel a bit like a child; that's usually the way I imagine a parent spanking their kid. But I guess if I act like a child by whining, I should be treated like one.

Once J decided I had enough for the first day, he repeated the lecture and asked me if I understood (yes). I counted the last 10 swats out loud.

J then positioned me on my back, across his lap, where he had good access to my pussy. He went over my original agreement with him to never deny him sexually, unless I was ill or injured. Some people may think that might be extreme, but it really works for us. J is not demanding, and anytime I'm not in the mood, but I say yes anyway, it ends up being enjoyable and I'm glad I didn't turn him down.

He then proceeded to spank my pussy with his hand, a leather strap, and a wooden ruler he sanded down smooth, just for this purpose. He also spent some time playing with my clit. He would rub it for a few seconds and then spank it for a few seconds. It really hurts when he spanks my clit, but J always seems to know just how much I can take.

When my pussy was sufficiently pink, I was sent to the corner to think about the spankings I had just received and the reason for them.

After standing in the corner for about 10 minutes, J called me to him. He already had a pillow waiting for me (how nice!). He guided me down to my knees and placed his rock hard cock in my mouth. He also positioned a full length mirror next to us, because he wanted to watch. I tried to put on a good show for him.

I took a quick shower to rinse all the cum off of me and refresh myself. I get so tired after a spanking.

Back on Schedule

So J told me today that it was time for me to get back on a schedule.

"What kind of schedule?"

He started with "6pm spanking"

I waited for him to say Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, because that was our schedule before.

But he continued with "every day."

Then he added, "We have a lot of catching up to do."

Eek! But he's right, I do need to get back on a regular schedule. Not just with spanking, but with everything else in my life, too. We got so busy this summer and got far away from schedules and rituals. I've been a total slacker with chores and daily tasks that need to be done.

I just can't seem to be productive unless I know there are definite consequences. Lucky for me, J is willing to provide those consequences.

We also agreed (long ago) that I would submit to J sexually. Anytime I "don't feel like it", J reminds me of our agreement. And every time, I'm glad I was reminded because I always enjoy it and feel happy that we did it. That may sound weird to some people, but it's just how I'm wired. (And I always have veto power over the whole thing if it's not working for me.)

J also added that to get me used to our arrangement, I'll be performing orally on him every day following my spanking.

I feel like J is more than ready to step back into his role of expecting me to do what I say I'm going to do, and providing the consequences when I don't. He can be strict sometimes, but it works for us.

I don't know if he's going to incorporate things like corner time, bedtimes, and other punishments back in. I expect he will. It feels like I haven't stood in a corner for eons. J didn't specifically mention pussy spankings either, but I think it's assumed that they will be resuming, as well.

I see so many relationships falling apart all around me, but J and I remain strong. I think a lot of it has to do with our version of DD. A lot of my friends don't seem to communicate very well with their spouses. J and I communicate clearly and openly all the time, and I attribute much of that to our version of DD.

I'm happy we found something that works great for us, even if we do stray away from it sometimes.

Face Slapping

Awhile ago I started commenting on an article I saved. As I've mentioned, I do not know the origin of this article, so if any of it sounds familiar to you, please send me a message or leave me a comment.

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One topic the Article Guy (AG) discusses is Face Slapping.

AG says he does not use face slapping regularly with his wife, but he did find it effective in the beginning of their DD relationship. He says when he does utilize it, he never slaps hard, it's more about the submission than causing any pain. He advises not to slap much harder than how you would pat a baby's back. You can "do it a few times to really get her attention". He says to be careful of the cheek bone and to stick with the fleshy parts of the cheek. AG noticed his wife became instantly submissive when he would slap her face.

With his wife kneeling in front of him AG "cups my wife's chin and make her look at me. I slap her cheeks and scold her at the same time."

AG says his wife finds this very humbling.

I can see how it would be.

J slaps my face sometimes. It's always when I'm in a submissive state, like during a weekly pussy spanking. He never has and never would do it in anger. We both agree that would be crossing a line. He's never slapped me hard, it's more startling and attention-getting than anything else.

Next time I need to be scolded, maybe J will try AG's kneeling technique.

So how do you feel about face slapping?

Consistent Spankings

I have this exfoliating scrubby thing in the shower that I like to use once or twice a week.

It used to be that I'd use the scrubby thing when there were going to be multiple days between my spankings. The surface is rough and it hurts when I rub it across my freshly spanked ass.

But now, since I get spanked three times a week, there is no more multiple days between spankings. So I've been having to exfoliating on my freshly spanked ass a couple of times a week. Not fun.

Even though J and I have have been running a million different directions these past few weeks, he has made sure not to miss any of our spanking appointments. It's pretty much the only thing that's been consistent around here.

I think he might be taking those times to get out some frustration, as well, because lately he's been using more and more implements at one time and the spankings seem to be lasting a lot longer.

I've been keeping up with my list very well, so I haven't been punished for quite some time. And J has been pleased with my level of motivation.

I have been getting my weekly pussy spankings, but other than that we haven't worked very much on my submission. There just hasn't been time.

We did get some potentially good news this week. There is a house a few miles from us that J and I are in love with. We got to see the inside of it once and we both wanted to buy it. Unfortunately it's not for sale. However, a friend of a friend, who is a real estate agent, told them he was contacted by the owners of that house, and that they are thinking of moving into a retirement place, closer to their children. Right now the owners say they are only gathering information to see what they could get for their house, and aren't making any definitely plans. But I think it's pretty likely they will have to move at some point. So we had our friend pass our information along to the agent, letting him know that no matter when these people decide to sell, we are interested. So we might be moving to our dream house at some point in the not so distant future. We are both so excited about the possibility.

My pants have been taken from me

So I'm sitting here with just a shirt on. J came home from work tonight, and immediately asked to see my pussy. I shaved today, so I'm freshly bald. As he was inspecting me, he gave me a few stingy swats on my clit. He then spent some time pinching my clit between my lips, using his thumbs. Ouch!

I can tell J is ready to get fully back into the swing of things. We've been a little lax lately; we've both been busy and tired. It's hard to keep our appointments when we're stressed out.

I always have mixed feelings about that. It's so easy for me to slip back into laziness. It's so comfortable and nice there. So I think to myself, I really don't want J to be strict with me. But then I get mad at myself for wasting a day and not doing anything. And I think to myself, J really needs to be strict with me.

It's not just laziness with myself, I get lazy and neglect J's needs as well. And I hate when I do that. So I'm craving a spanking, but also dreading it at the same time.

J had some work to do in the garage, and when he comes back in, he'll be spanking me. It's a reminder day. I'm not looking forward to the act itself, but I am looking forward to the motivation boost.

I don't know if J's planning on spanking my pussy tonight as well. It's not our normal reminder day for it, but I haven't been exactly jumping at the chance to please him lately, so I feel like I'm due a punishment in that area. There are times when I think to myself, "I should definitely be spanked for that." Of course I never say that out loud!

J made a comment last night about me needing some training. I sometimes makes things hard on him and I really don't mean to. I know there are days when I could easily take his mind off of work and stress and calm him down, but I don't. It's due to pure laziness. As much as training sounds scary, J might have a point.

He also brought up the fact that we don't play with our toys enough. We have a whole box full of them. I don't know exactly what he has in mind, but I'm sure I'll find out soon enough!

Also last night, we found a skirt for me to wear on car rides (or wherever else J wants me to wear it). It's a wrap around skirt, so it'll allow for easy access. J tells me the skirt is to remain open anytime I am wearing it in the car, and of course I won't be wearing anything underneath. We are going to try to take a short road trip this weekend to try it out. He mentioned getting on the highway so that "truckers will be able to look down and see you." [gulp].

Bald Pussy

I shaved my pussy today and right afterwards, I texted J to tell him. I knew he'd appreciate the information. He texted me back telling me to strip from the waist down and that he'd be home shortly for lunch.

When he got home he examined my bald pussy and told me how nice it looked. He sat me on the couch and told me to masturbate. As I did he swatted my pussy with the back of his hand. We were right in front of a window. No one can really see in, but it still felt like I was exposed. The combination of those things made me cum in mere minutes.

There was not enough time for me to give J the same pleasure, before he had to go back to work. But I imagine that will be happening later tonight.

There's gonna be a spanking tonight

I'm sitting here dreading the spanking I know I'll be getting today. But at the same time I know I need it. My motivation level is zero.

It's mostly because I haven't been spanked in over a week. Some friends of ours decided to drive to their beach house for the week, and invited us to go along. It was all very last minute and things were hectic the few days before we left. It was all worth it; we had a fantastic time. But we could not keep to our normal spanking schedule.

So I know it's coming and I have no interest in being spanked at all. When I have a week off, it's always so hard for me to get back into things.

Tonight is pussy spanking night too. I know we both need that. We've not been able to connect intimately in ages. It seems like it's always something. I hurt or J hurts, or people are around, or there's no time, or we're too tired. Just so many things. I think the intimacy of a pussy spanking will do us some good.

Bedtime Blow Job

I was feeling a bit grumpy last night at bedtime when J wanted a blow job. I said I didn't feel like it and whined about it. J does not like whining. At all. He immediately rolled me over and spanked my pussy. He reminded me that I am not allowed to tell him no. He also reminded me that the punishment for whining is getting a dick in my mouth. J feels that if I am whining, he will give me something else to occupy my mouth with. Sometimes he uses the cock gag, most times he uses his own cock.

The pussy spanking was short, but very stingy. J made sure to spank most of my very sensitive areas. He was having a bit of trouble holding open my lips to spank my clit, because of the position we were in. For a second I thought he was going to ask me to hold them open, but thankfully he didn't. I'm not sure that I would be able to actually do that knowing how much it hurts.

When J was done spanking my pussy, he guided my head down to his cock and fucked my face until he was satisfied.

My whining was pointless. All it got me was a pussy spanking. Sometimes I just can't help myself.

Submissive Journal Prompts

I've been having some trouble coming up with things to write about. I feel like I'm writing about the same spanking over and over. So, I did some searching online for some ideas awhile back and I came across this site. I forgot about it until today when I was going through some old bookmarks. It's called Submissive Journal Prompts: http://www.submissiveguide.com/journalprompts/

The prompt today is about blogging and it says this: "If you have an online blog, this would be a good week to reintroduce yourself to your readers." So that's what I thought I would do.

My name is Cassady and I'm a spanko. I've had an interest in spanking for as long as I can remember, but it was always a sexual thing. Over the years I've been able to find tons of information, thanks to the Internet, about spanking, different lifestyles, BDSM, DD, and many other things that interest me. When I met J he had never spanked anyone. He is a gentle soul, and I was afraid he wouldn't be able to step into any sort of dominant role. But if you've been reading this blog you know he is a natural.

We've taken aspects from different schools of thought, and have found things we really like and that work well for us. We have stopped and started trying to live our own version of DD many times. Somehow it seems like we stop for a specific reason (house guests, illness, laziness, etc.) and never start back up again. But we are both happier when we could keep up with it. This last time we started, we both decided we would make a commitment to make it a priority. And so far that's been working out great.

I get regular spankings 3 times a week. We usually call them reminder spankings because the purpose is to remind me to finish my to-do list every day, stay motivated, and submit to J. It also reminds me what the consequences are of not doing those things. I also get weekly pussy spankings. This further aids in my submissiveness.

This is all done with my permission and at my request. J is so very loving and attentive, I could never dream of someone else I'd want to be married to. And he cares enough to discipline me when I need it.

Feel free to introduce yourself in the comments or send me an email.