Chore Charts & Cleaning Lists

I found this site that has Chore Charts, Cleaning Lists, and other household management tools that you can print for free.

http://moneysavingmom.com/downloads/household-management-forms

I generally just make a to do list on a piece of scrap paper, but I like the organization of the forms on that site. And it lets you easily customize them to your own needs.

I showed them to J and he said they would be much easier to read than my "scribbles" that I write down on the scrap paper. I'm going to print a few tonight and see if it helps make me more organized.

I've had an easy week so far. J gives me a lot of slack when it's that time of the month. I've been keeping up with my chores, but J has crossed a few things off of my list when I haven't been feeling well, and I haven't been spanked at all.

Next week will be a different story...

Back Home and Finally Alone!

Before we left for the beach, my brother told us he's moving in with his girlfriend! He doesn't have very many belongings, so his move was quick and easy.

We are finally alone again!

While we were away J told me that we were going back to regular, reminder spankings. I was under the impression that we were going to be returning to our former schedule of 3 reminder spankings a week plus one pussy spanking. But J informed me that I'd be getting spanked every day, until further notice!

The first week was mostly spent getting back into routine. I was spanked every day Monday through Friday. Wednesday I also got a pussy spanking. I struggled a little bit during the week. I did not want to be spanked every day. And by the end of the week I was so sore!

But on the other hand, my to do list was done, plus I even had time to do EXTRA! That part was fantastic.

This week started and J said we would again have daily reminder spankings. Monday wasn't too bad, but Tuesday hurt like crazy! I am very sore from all these spankings!

Mostly J has been reminding me of why we are doing this. As much as I don't like the spankings, something is definitely working, because I have been able to complete my chores and daily to do lists with tons of extra time to spare!

Last night, right before bed, J told me to take off my clothes and lay on the bed. He started playing with my clit the way I love him to. He was asking me whose pussy it was, and I replied "yours". It was so hot. Then, right before I was about to cum, he stopped and told me to take over. I did and he spanked my pussy very hard and said CUM! I had barely just gotten my fingers in place! He then proceeded to spank my pussy really fast and hard without stopping and kept telling me to cum. I didn't cum right away, but it was much quicker than normal, and it was intense! This is definitely J's new favorite game.

Ahhhh...it's good to be back home and back on track.

The Puppy Papers

I recently started a new book called The Puppy Papers by Puppy Sharon & Steven Toushin. I just started it, so I don't have much to say yet.

This is the description from the back of the book:
This unique and honest story traces one middle American woman’s journey into kinky sex. After 18 years of trying to be the perfect wife, mother, church member, friend, and professional, she realizes something big is missing in her life. With a few strokes of the keyboard, she stumbles into the amazing sexual hunting grounds of the Internet, falling with eyes open into the world of adult personal ads.

As only a puppy can, she eagerly jumps into BDSM on her first real-time encounter, meeting the man who becomes her first master. With that initial taste of kinky sex, a desire that laid dormant for many years came alive so strong that there was no going back. Beginning with the man she first called master, puppy embarked upon a search for her true Master. This book is the result of six months of e-mail correspondence with her current Master, that began as He desired to know her better.

Since puppy is a quiet woman around her Master, it was only through the written word that her story emerged, eventually taking on a life of its own. puppy’s story includes memories of herself as a little girl learning about her body, her sexual awakenings in her teen years, and the maturing of her libidinal desires. There is no conflict or guilt in puppy’s story, just an overwhelming desire for completeness.

In other news, I have been going to the gym according to the schedule J has set for me, so I've avoided being grounded so far.

I've also been motivated enough to complete my to-do list every day. I even started spring cleaning and have done many extra chores. And J and I are finally going to paint the office this weekend. I'm excited to pick a new color; the current paint is dingy and dull.

Spring is here!

A new kind of maintenance

For my Friday maintenance J decided to use a leather strap and a wooden ruler, in addition to his hand. Throughout the spanking he asked me to tell him what I wanted to accomplish and repeated to me that the three times a week maintenance has really been helping me. In fact I got my whole to do list finished every day this week. I was spanked a little bit harder and a bit longer today. J says it is to make sure I can remember it all weekend, since I won't be spanked again until Monday (unless I earn a punishment or something).

I do love that I feel a bit more motivated to get things done, but I've got to say my butt is sore! Three times a week is definitely a solid reminder of what I need to get done. The soreness doesn't really have time to go away, so I am being reminded every time I sit or move around in a way that brushes my undies against my ass.

Today is a perfect example of how it seems to be working for me. There was an item on my to do list that I was not particularly looking forward to. My first thought was that I will just put it off until tomorrow. The longer I sat here with my to do list staring at me, the more I felt that I really should get that thing done. One because I really didn't want to be spanked again on my already sore bottom. Also, I knew that J would be disappointed if I didn't complete my whole list today, especially after receiving 3 maintenance spankings. So I did it and now I feel happy that my list is completed!

We discussed something new tonight and that is pussy maintenance. We agreed a long time ago that I would never turn J down for sex, unless I am unwell or injured. The only reason I ever turn him down is pure laziness. I get to where I just "don't feel like it". When I do it anyway, I always end up enjoying it and having a great time. It ALWAYS feels good. So we decided that I would no longer be allowed to deny his advances. If/when I do J is supposed to spank my pussy as punishment. Then, sometime later in the day we would have sex. J likes to leave time in between punishment and sex so that the two don't get confused. He says the sex is not part of the punishment.

So, we were discussing how my three times weekly maintenance has been helping with my motivation; giving me the reminder I need of what the consequences will be for not completing my list. J said why not the same with pussy maintenance? It will be a reminder of what happens if I deny his advances. We haven't yet worked out a schedule, J might incorporate it into my already scheduled Mon/Wed/Fri maintenance spankings.

This afternoon, J instructed me into the bedroom. He laid me on my back and whipped my pussy with a riding crop, his hand, and a ruler. He didn't use much force, I think he was just trying to get the feel of how he's going to do this. He also whipped my breasts with the crop. It stung a bit, but he kept it fairly light. He spanked my pussy with varying levels of intensity, at first I found myself getting turned on. But once the intensity increased, I could feel the horniness fading away, and the seriousness of the punishment took its place. It wasn't really a punishment; it was more of a practice for what's to come.

At one point I started to whine a little bit, so J got the cock gag we have and placed it in my mouth. It's short, but very wide. My jaw instantly ached from it. I used to be able to hold that thing in my mouth for awhile, now it because painful after just a few minutes. I am WAY out of practice.

I think the pussy maintenance is promising and necessary to our fantastic sex life. When we first met, I was jumping J's bones constantly. Now I just feel lazy so often that I don't want to bother. I can't wait for that to change.

Anticipation

Sometimes, when I'm sitting here, waiting for a spanking, I can feel the anticipation building. I know that I am going to be spanked when J gets home from work. He will be home in less than an hour. I know I won't be able to talk my way out of it or somehow otherwise distract J from his task.

Depending on my mood, I sometimes feel turned on by the anticipation. Other times I feel irritated and grumpy. And other times I feel thankful and well taken care of. Overall, this spanking schedule we've been keeping has had a positive affect on us. So no matter what kind of mood I'm in, I submit to the spanking.

...LATER...

So I'm writing this part after having just been spanked. J tells me I'm doing great with my errands/chores. I've been making a daily to do list and have completed it every day. I'm also doing well with not using that tone that J hates. I've been coming to bed on time each night, too. But the one thing I haven't been so great with is being submissive (both sexually and not). J really wants to work on that this week.

It's not that I'm completely unsubmissive, I just have had a low sex drive and have been a bit on the grumpy side lately. Part of it is laziness and part of it is letting myself get back out of shape again. I always feel crappy when I don't exercise regularly. So that's the other thing J brought up tonight. He wants me to start going back to the gym. And he decided that he'll go with me to get himself in better shape, too. He says if I don't go, he won't go either, (although if I don't go, I'll get spanked!).

J is in the garage right now putting a final stain on the ruler. My punishment for not being submissive is a spanking on my pussy with the ruler. It's a heavy wooden ruler that J sanded and stained, so it will look nice and not leave any splinters or anything. We haven't actually used it yet, though it's come up in conversation a bunch of times over the past couple of weeks.

I'm a little nervous about the ruler. I've never been spanked on my pussy other than for play. I've never had an actual frontal punishment. I know it is supposed to hurt, and that's what makes me nervous. I think I'm going to be seeing a lot of this ruler in the near future.

If this posting (and my other postings) seems choppy, it's because sometimes I write things throughout the day, as I think of them. I wait to post them until I have some time to type them all out into the blog.

Thanks for reading!

Starting a new week (and a new year!)

Friday's spanking was pretty intense. I guess I've been a bit grumpy lately and J hates that. He used the middle sized round paddle and he spanked me hard. Friday spankings are usually a bit more intense because I usually go the whole weekend without any scheduled spankings and J wants to make sure I don't forget it by the end of the weekend.

On Saturday we met some friends for brunch. These are some of J's friends that I don't really like to be around. Last time we got together with them, J spanked me before we left, just as a reminder to behave. I half expected him to do the same this time, but he didn't. I managed to behave myself anyway. It wasn't so bad, because it was only brunch, which was pretty quick. It wasn't like when we get together for dinner and it lasts hours and hours.

Well, we're just about ready to start a new week. I'm going to try to get myself in a better mood so I don't get into trouble! I need to find some motivation, too, so I can make sure to get all of my tasks/chores/errands completed on time.

Masturbating

Tonight's spanking hurt more than usual. I don't know why. Some days I feel like I could take a lot more than I get, and other days (like tonight) it feels like I've never been spanked before. I couldn't stop squirming, and I could not wait for it to be over. Maybe it has something to do with hormones.

J wants me to masturbate tomorrow before I do my chores, before I turn on the computer, basically before I do anything else. He thinks it will be a good stress reliever for me.

I would not normally complain about masturbating, but my hand is hurting me tonight. I spent hours and hours writing out our Christmas cards. We send hundreds out to our business clients, in addition to our friends & family. But I'm sure I can find a toy to help me out.

Speaking of stress relief, J has a lot of busy, stressful conferences and work related stuff coming up in the next month or two. He mentioned that I will be relieving him of some of his stress. Orally. So I imagine I'm going to find myself on my knees a lot in Jan/Feb.

Collar

J wanted me to wear my collar while I was doing my chores today. I don't usually have problems with the collar, but for some reason today, it rubbed a raw spot on my neck. I didn't have it on for very long either. I did the dishes, cleaned up the kitchen, dusted, and made a few phone calls. That was less than 2 hours.

J stopped home on his lunch break today to pick something up. While he was here, he commanded me to kneel in front of him, unzip his pants, and take him into my mouth. He didn't have time to finish, though, so we'll probably get to that later tonight.

I still haven't gotten back to the gym. It's been ages since I've been there. I've been feeling so lazy and blubbery lately, I must get back into the gym routine. Oh why can't I just sit around eating cupcakes all day?

I have my Monday spanking to "look forward to" tonight. Otherwise I think J and I are going to curl up on the couch and watch a movie.

Spare Time.

Getting my "chores" and errands completed before I turn the computer on has been great! I get everything finished quickly and I even seem to end up with some spare time every day.

I need to get back into an exercise routine. I have gotten lazy with that and my muscles feel like they are turning into mush. That's the next thing I really need to work on.

When J came home from work tonight I greeted him in just a robe, my collar, and leash. He told me I looked hot. He led me to the bedroom and I knelt in front of him. I performed oral sex on him for a few minutes and then we had great sex. He used the leash to pull me into different positions.

My Monday spanking came a few hours later and was average in intensity, with the wooden paddle. I will still feel it tomorrow, but it isn't uncomfortable to sit. J says we will continue with 3 times a week this week and next week and then will see if we can take it down to 2 weeks. He told me tonight that he's pleased with the way things have been going. I am too.

I haven't told J I'm writing this blog yet. At first I wanted to wait until I had a few posts up here so he'd actually have something to read. But then I thought that I don't want him to be swayed in any way by something I've said. This is the first time he's taken the sole lead role in this and it's going really well.

So now I'm not sure when I will tell him about this. Not that I'm specficially keeping it from him, it just hasn't seemed like a good time to bring it up.

Catching Up

I wrote a few of these posts previously, on my laptop, which did not have Internet access for a few days. I am just uploading them now.
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Thursday I woke up to find my butt is still very sore. We have found, in our previous experiences, that when my butt stays sore for more than a day, it helps as a reminder to me whenever I am feeling lazy or unmotivated.

I got all of my errands and "chores" (for lack of a better word) done today in record time. I had enough time for some pampering - just some little things I like to do that I often don’t have time for, or put off. I moisturized all of my skin today - all over my whole body. I used my favorite lotion and felt so silky smooth afterwards. Not to mention I smell great! Why don't I do this everyday? Oh, that's right, I lean toward the lazy side. Hopefully that will be changing and I'll have time to pamper myself more often.

An unintentional benefit I've noticed is that I've been hanging out with and cuddling with J a lot more this week. Normally when we're watching TV, I have the laptop sitting in front of me and am busy answering emails or reading newsgroups. Now that my days are a bit more structured, I'm finding all this extra time. So my newsgroups are read and emails are answered by the time J gets home from work, which leaves plenty of extra time for hanging out with the man I love.

My spanking tonight was just awful. The hand spanking wasn't so bad, but when J switched over to the paddle it really hurt. My butt was still sore from the previous 3 days of spanking. I kept thinking about what a great week it had been. And I knew this would be the last spanking until Monday. J decided that next week we will cut it down to 3 times a week spankings. Monday, Wednesday and Friday. One of the mistakes I think we made before is we only had weekly spankings and that was just not enough for me. I think 3 times a week will be a good amount. But if it turns out it doesn't work, we'll adjust it accordingly.

I have an earlier bedtime tonight because I have to get up early tomorrow. We have friends coming to stay with us for the weekend and they are arriving in the morning.

The Second Day

Monday night we discussed my earlier spanking. I felt encouraged by it and J did too. He told me I was going to be spanked daily for the week. He was fairly gentle on Monday because my butt had not been spanked for so long.

I can't say I was looking forward to being spanked again on Tuesday, but I did feel glad it was going to happen. I felt glad J seemed to be really taking control this time. With very little input from me.

(For anyone who doesn't know, I can veto anything at any time if I do not feel right about it. J and I are in an amazing and very trusting relationship and have been together for many years. We know each other well and love each other deeply. There is something about my chemical make up that craves structure and discipline in my life. I work better that way and am always so much happier. But it takes work and time and sometimes J and I don't have either.)

I got so many things done on Tuesday. I cleaned the living room, dusted the whole house, changed the filter in the shower, did the dishes, planned dinner, and a few other little tasks that needed to be done. I also got a workout in. And I still had spare time. I don't know how that happened - I'm usually scrambling for time to get things done and I have barely been doing anything for the past several weeks. I have a problem with laziness. J and I decided that I have to have certain things completed before I can turn on my computer. That has really been helping.

Tuesday's spanking ended up being semi-mild and was only a hand spanking. J then led me to the corner where I stood for what seemed to be 15 minutes. Afterwards I knelt in front of him and thanked him for spanking me. I really do appreciate that he takes the time and effort to help give me structure. I might not have mentioned this before, but I asked for this. I brought it up the first time we talked about it and most of the times since. This is the first time that J has taken the lead.

We check in with each other every day to make sure we both still want this and that everything is still feeling right.

It feels very right.