Reminder Spankings

After getting reminder spankings every weekday for 2 weeks, J told me he thinks I am ready to go back to our old schedule of 3x a week.

My first reaction was relief to not be getting spanked every day. But then I started to wonder if I might actually need daily spankings to keep on the path I'm on. The past 2 weeks I feel like I've been mostly on top of things and am getting better at being submissive to J.

Maybe I need daily reminders . It puts me in a certain headspace where I feel like I'm confident in my place and what I have to do.

I'm beginning to realize I like the routine and accountability involved in our version of DD. It makes me feel safe and secure to know that someone cares about what I do and will help me be a better person, even if those ways might be unconventional.

I like to know that I am going to get spanked on certain days and at certain times, even if I haven't done anything wrong. I know some people think that it's unfair to be spanked for "no reason", but I don't see it that way at all. I see it as J knowing enough about me to know what I need, and he follows through. And I definitely need to be spanked regularly. Otherwise I just fall to pieces. Not emotionally - I'm always very happy with my life, but as far as getting things done - errands, chores, etc... I just get so lazy, I just don't do anything. The reminder spankings really help keep me on track.

I'm hoping 3 spankings a week will be enough for me to happily get my to-do lists done, and not struggle with finishing it each night. And I hope the weekly pussy spanking is enough to help me be submissive to J without any complaints or hesitation.

If anyone wants to post in the comments, or email me privately, I'd love to know what spanking schedule you have and if it's working.

Back Home and Finally Alone!

Before we left for the beach, my brother told us he's moving in with his girlfriend! He doesn't have very many belongings, so his move was quick and easy.

We are finally alone again!

While we were away J told me that we were going back to regular, reminder spankings. I was under the impression that we were going to be returning to our former schedule of 3 reminder spankings a week plus one pussy spanking. But J informed me that I'd be getting spanked every day, until further notice!

The first week was mostly spent getting back into routine. I was spanked every day Monday through Friday. Wednesday I also got a pussy spanking. I struggled a little bit during the week. I did not want to be spanked every day. And by the end of the week I was so sore!

But on the other hand, my to do list was done, plus I even had time to do EXTRA! That part was fantastic.

This week started and J said we would again have daily reminder spankings. Monday wasn't too bad, but Tuesday hurt like crazy! I am very sore from all these spankings!

Mostly J has been reminding me of why we are doing this. As much as I don't like the spankings, something is definitely working, because I have been able to complete my chores and daily to do lists with tons of extra time to spare!

Last night, right before bed, J told me to take off my clothes and lay on the bed. He started playing with my clit the way I love him to. He was asking me whose pussy it was, and I replied "yours". It was so hot. Then, right before I was about to cum, he stopped and told me to take over. I did and he spanked my pussy very hard and said CUM! I had barely just gotten my fingers in place! He then proceeded to spank my pussy really fast and hard without stopping and kept telling me to cum. I didn't cum right away, but it was much quicker than normal, and it was intense! This is definitely J's new favorite game.

Ahhhh...it's good to be back home and back on track.

Back to the spanking schedule

J feels that I've been motivated and progressing well toward my goals each day, so we are back to 3 reminder spankings a week. He spanked me extra hard on Monday, to be sure I'd be thinking about it until Wednesday. I have been gradually feeling more motivated. The more things I can accomplish, the more motivated I feel. I don't know why I need to be spanked, but when I don't have those consequences I slack off immediately!

We've also been working on my submission, which I've mentioned before. Often J is very lenient and gives me many chances to do what he says. It's pretty common that I will hem and haw and he will say "Do you want your pussy spanked?" And I will say no, and we will go back and forth like that until I eventually do as I'm told.

But over the weekend, I got a glimpse of a much more strict J. He asked me to show him my tits. I hesitated for a second and he very calmly grabbed my hand and let me into the bedroom. Without a word he laid me back on the bed, took off my pants and proceeded to spank my pussy with his hand. He switched over to the ruler and spanked for probably 5 straight minutes without stopping! He reminded me that I asked to be punished when I did not comply with what he was telling me to do. He asked me several times if I understood and agreed. Of course I did. The pussy spanking didn't last very long, but it was hard and fast. When he was done, he told me to come into the office. I was allowed to put my pants back on, but no shirt. J placed me on a stool next to his desk, in sort of a time-out for 10 minutes while we talked about our agreement. He had his hands on my tits during the whole lecture. I was not allowed a shirt until the next morning.

Spanking week 2

J decided this week was going to be a repeat of last week, as far as spankings go. He says I'm doing great with getting my to-do list completed, but thinks I'm still not quite as motivated as I should be. And I agree. He also upped by bedtime, just by 15 minutes for now, to help me get moving a bit earlier in the day.

So I will be spanked every day this week, plus pussy spanked 3 times, and immediately after I will give J a blow job. He says after this week if I'm back to being as motivated as I need to be, we can resume our old schedule of 3 reminder spankings a week.

We are also working on my level of sexual submission to J. I want to get back to the point where my body is available to him whenever he wants it. I used to always be game for sex, but now I just feel old and fat. I find that when the choice is made for me, I can get past any grumpy feelings I might be having and get right to the fun parts.

Over the weekend, J presented me with a pacifier that has a penis as the rubber part that goes in your mouth. We don't get into the age play scene, but as part of my submission, J will sometimes treat me like a child.

Today he told me I was to place the pacifier in my mouth before I left the house and keep it there anytime I was in the car. Of course no one can see the penis part when it's in my mouth, but they can still see a grown woman with a pacifier in her mouth! And it's not easy to hide - it's got a big, baby blue, plastic ring. Here is a picture of it:

I drove with it all the way to the Post Office and back with it securely in my mouth, and it seems like I hit every red light and a lot of traffic.

I feel like everyone saw me.

I don't even know what they thought.

4 Days of Spankings, so far

My ass is very sore from being spanked 4 days in a row. I have one more day of spanking tomorrow and then J will decide how we will proceed next week. The spankings have increased in intensity throughout the week, so I'm looking forward to the break this weekend.

I have been getting my to do lists done, but it's been a struggle; I'm just barely motivated, and find myself having to rush to get things done before I have to be in bed.

It has been nice having everything finished each day. I can go to bed knowing the house is clean and I can start the next day fresh, without anything hanging over my head.

After my spankings, J has been sending me to the corner. I am supposed to think about how these reminder spankings are keeping me motivated, and all the reasons we choose to live this way. I have a really hard time with that. My mind wanders almost instantly. And I end up thinking about everything except for what I'm supposed to be thinking about.

I have one more pussy spanking left tomorrow. That hasn't been too bad, because I've been getting a 1 day break in between. The last one for the week is tomorrow, and it'll probably be the most severe of the week, since J will want the reminder to stick with me until the next time I get a pussy spanking.

J texted me in the middle of the day today and told me to masturbate. At first I felt like I didn't have time, but it turned out to be a welcome break in my day. And who doesn't like having orgasms? lol.

I see J embracing his role again, and it makes me proud and happy to know that he's so comfortable and natural doing what's best for us.

Back to our Spanking Routine, day 1

Promptly at 6pm, J instructed me to go to the bedroom and take off my clothes. He had already arranged many of our implements on the bed. He was clearly ready to start back up with our version of DD.

Once I was face down, J started with a brief lecture. He reminded me that I am to stay motivated to achieve my daily goals and complete my daily to do list. And if I do not, there will be consequences. He started spanking me gently, due to my not having been consistently spanked for several months. He continued the lecture saying that when he holds me accountable, he finds that he is more motivated and holds himself at a higher standard. So it is very important that we stay on track.

He also reminded me that whining will not be tolerated. If I whine, J will make sure to find something else for me to do with my mouth (with an option to also spank me).

J increased the speed and intensity of the spanking, and repeated the lecture a few more times. My ass was definitely sensitive and I was squirming and fussing. At one point J used his hand to spank me really quickly one right after the other on one cheek, and then the same on the other cheek. It made me feel a bit like a child; that's usually the way I imagine a parent spanking their kid. But I guess if I act like a child by whining, I should be treated like one.

Once J decided I had enough for the first day, he repeated the lecture and asked me if I understood (yes). I counted the last 10 swats out loud.

J then positioned me on my back, across his lap, where he had good access to my pussy. He went over my original agreement with him to never deny him sexually, unless I was ill or injured. Some people may think that might be extreme, but it really works for us. J is not demanding, and anytime I'm not in the mood, but I say yes anyway, it ends up being enjoyable and I'm glad I didn't turn him down.

He then proceeded to spank my pussy with his hand, a leather strap, and a wooden ruler he sanded down smooth, just for this purpose. He also spent some time playing with my clit. He would rub it for a few seconds and then spank it for a few seconds. It really hurts when he spanks my clit, but J always seems to know just how much I can take.

When my pussy was sufficiently pink, I was sent to the corner to think about the spankings I had just received and the reason for them.

After standing in the corner for about 10 minutes, J called me to him. He already had a pillow waiting for me (how nice!). He guided me down to my knees and placed his rock hard cock in my mouth. He also positioned a full length mirror next to us, because he wanted to watch. I tried to put on a good show for him.

I took a quick shower to rinse all the cum off of me and refresh myself. I get so tired after a spanking.

Consistent Spankings

I have this exfoliating scrubby thing in the shower that I like to use once or twice a week.

It used to be that I'd use the scrubby thing when there were going to be multiple days between my spankings. The surface is rough and it hurts when I rub it across my freshly spanked ass.

But now, since I get spanked three times a week, there is no more multiple days between spankings. So I've been having to exfoliating on my freshly spanked ass a couple of times a week. Not fun.

Even though J and I have have been running a million different directions these past few weeks, he has made sure not to miss any of our spanking appointments. It's pretty much the only thing that's been consistent around here.

I think he might be taking those times to get out some frustration, as well, because lately he's been using more and more implements at one time and the spankings seem to be lasting a lot longer.

I've been keeping up with my list very well, so I haven't been punished for quite some time. And J has been pleased with my level of motivation.

I have been getting my weekly pussy spankings, but other than that we haven't worked very much on my submission. There just hasn't been time.

We did get some potentially good news this week. There is a house a few miles from us that J and I are in love with. We got to see the inside of it once and we both wanted to buy it. Unfortunately it's not for sale. However, a friend of a friend, who is a real estate agent, told them he was contacted by the owners of that house, and that they are thinking of moving into a retirement place, closer to their children. Right now the owners say they are only gathering information to see what they could get for their house, and aren't making any definitely plans. But I think it's pretty likely they will have to move at some point. So we had our friend pass our information along to the agent, letting him know that no matter when these people decide to sell, we are interested. So we might be moving to our dream house at some point in the not so distant future. We are both so excited about the possibility.

My pants have been taken from me

So I'm sitting here with just a shirt on. J came home from work tonight, and immediately asked to see my pussy. I shaved today, so I'm freshly bald. As he was inspecting me, he gave me a few stingy swats on my clit. He then spent some time pinching my clit between my lips, using his thumbs. Ouch!

I can tell J is ready to get fully back into the swing of things. We've been a little lax lately; we've both been busy and tired. It's hard to keep our appointments when we're stressed out.

I always have mixed feelings about that. It's so easy for me to slip back into laziness. It's so comfortable and nice there. So I think to myself, I really don't want J to be strict with me. But then I get mad at myself for wasting a day and not doing anything. And I think to myself, J really needs to be strict with me.

It's not just laziness with myself, I get lazy and neglect J's needs as well. And I hate when I do that. So I'm craving a spanking, but also dreading it at the same time.

J had some work to do in the garage, and when he comes back in, he'll be spanking me. It's a reminder day. I'm not looking forward to the act itself, but I am looking forward to the motivation boost.

I don't know if J's planning on spanking my pussy tonight as well. It's not our normal reminder day for it, but I haven't been exactly jumping at the chance to please him lately, so I feel like I'm due a punishment in that area. There are times when I think to myself, "I should definitely be spanked for that." Of course I never say that out loud!

J made a comment last night about me needing some training. I sometimes makes things hard on him and I really don't mean to. I know there are days when I could easily take his mind off of work and stress and calm him down, but I don't. It's due to pure laziness. As much as training sounds scary, J might have a point.

He also brought up the fact that we don't play with our toys enough. We have a whole box full of them. I don't know exactly what he has in mind, but I'm sure I'll find out soon enough!

Also last night, we found a skirt for me to wear on car rides (or wherever else J wants me to wear it). It's a wrap around skirt, so it'll allow for easy access. J tells me the skirt is to remain open anytime I am wearing it in the car, and of course I won't be wearing anything underneath. We are going to try to take a short road trip this weekend to try it out. He mentioned getting on the highway so that "truckers will be able to look down and see you." [gulp].

Unmotivated

J and I were discussing how unmotivated I've been the past several weeks. He says it's because he hasn't been as focused on my behavior or my reminder spankings. I say it's just because I get lazy. It's just so easy to slip back into old habits of slacking off and not getting anything done.

We were again short on time tonight, but J did give me a thorough spanking. He used the riding crop first. He uses the end for a stingy effect and the long part for a cane-type effect.

I call that little wooden paddle the Popsicle paddle, because that's what it looks like. J made that out of some scrap wood he had in the garage a few years ago. It's light, but it stings! And since it's not huge it concentrates the sting to a small area. J must have spanked me with that for an hour! Or at least that's what it felt like. It was probably closer to 10 minutes.

I know we both have several projects coming up, and as usual J is busy with work, but we are trying not to get too far from our spanking routine. It really does make things easier and better, even if it is time consuming.

Unfinished List

For the first time in a long time, I didn't finish my to do list. I knew I'd be getting a spanking when J got home from work. I was not looking forward to it. I feel like I've been spanked a lot this week. Plus I was already scheduled to receive a reminder/maintenance spanking tonight.

For my punishment, J used the big, long wooden paddle. The one I hate the most. He gave me 2 swats on each cheek (one for each item not completed on my to do list). I didn't exactly cry, but it did bring tears to my eyes. That paddle really hurts!

A few hours later, during my reminder spanking, J let me know that he won't hesitate to spank me every day if he thinks it will help me remember to get my list completed. I immediately said "No Way!" Three times a week is enough.

Once all of that was out of the way, we had a nice start to the weekend. We had a fun time running some errands, then we spent the rest of the night cuddling and watching movies. I felt very relaxed and loved.

Happy weekend!

Pussy Punishment

J and I had a very nice, relaxing weekend where we got to spend a lot of time just being together. There was one point where I was a bit of a brat and wouldn't expose my tits when J asked. He reminded me that was a no no and asked if I wanted my pussy spanked. Of course I said no.

Since he didn't spank me right then, I figured the incident had been forgotten about, but tonight after my regular reminder spanking, J told me to flip over onto my back. He reminded me that I was due a punishment spanking on my pussy for refusing him this weekend.

He whipped my pussy with a small strap, while lecturing me on whose pussy it is and how I agreed to submit to him. This was my first pussy punishment and I thought it would be a lot worse. When I get my ass spanked for punishment it's way worse than a reminder spanking. But the pussy punishment was not nearly as bad as the weekly reminders I get. Although at one point he spread my lips wide and was spanking directly on my clit. That hurt a lot.

J then started using his thumb to play with my clit during the spanking. He was doing both at the same time. I asked him why he was making me feel good, when it was supposed to hurt, but he said I shouldn't tell him how to play with his toy. He's right, so I didn't object further. Overall it felt more like a game than a serious spanking.

He didn't let me cum at that time, and the spanking didn't last very long. When it was over, we cuddled for a few minutes. It always feels so right being in his arms.

I'm quite happy with the way we've been progressing and keeping up with our version of DD. Every other time we've tried it, we ended up stopping and months would go by before we'd start again. J has been great about maintaining consistency and a level of strictness. He doesn't let me get away with much. For the most part I get my things done every day and don't get punished very often. And that definitely feels good.

Many implements

I came into the bedroom and saw all of these implements laying out on the bed.



I knew tonight I was going to be spanked on my ass and also on my pussy. For various reasons that seemed to happen one right after the other, it has been a long time since I've had my pussy spanked.

I was first told to lay on my stomach. J sat next to me on the bed and began to spank me with his hand. He switched on and off with the strap, ruler, and other implements pictured above. At one point he spanked each cheek hard, very quickly, one right after the other. It seemed to go on forever. My ass was on fire.

We discussed the usual topics during the spanking. The reasons for the spanking, understanding the rules and consequences, if these reminder spankings help me get things done, and what I need to do to avoid punishment.

Once that was over he had me flip onto my back. He started right in, using his hand at first. He also used one of the small leather slappers. J lectured me more than usual tonight during my pussy spanking. He was very stern. I felt like he was in a very strict mode and I also felt like he would not abuse that role and he would take care of me. He thoroughly spanked my pussy and lips. He even spanked inside my lips, on the very sensitive part. He used the ruler on my pussy and also on my nipples. It stung and I know I squirmed a lot.

I feel very submissive immediately after a pussy spanking. I guess that's the idea. Thing is, it wears off pretty quickly. The submissive feeling. Not totally, but mostly.

Tonight, right after my spanking, J did an inspection of my pussy. He checked to make sure there were no marks or bruising. I feel so exposed when he does his examinations.

He then started playing with my clit. At one point I asked him to move his thumb to a different position. He asked me if I was trying to tell him how to play with his toy. And he said, "Didn't we just talk about whose toy this is?" Yes, yes, we did.

I was close to cuming, but he stopped and said that wasn't the time for that. I hopped in the shower and thought about finishing myself off, but I wasn't sure if I should. We have no set rule about me cuming. Generally I just cum whenever I want. So I thought I would wait and mention it later. When I did J said I could use my favorite toy tonight to come before I go to bed. I am looking forward to that. I couldn't wait though. Just a little while ago I used my hand while still in the office. I just couldn't wait for the release.

Velcro Underwear

I was punished again today for not completing an item on my to do list. It's nearly always the same item - not practicing my guitar. I really do want to play the guitar, I just hate the practicing and learning part. I get so frustrated when I can do it perfectly right away. So I didn't do it yesterday and J spanked me for it. I got several really hard swats with the strap before he continued spanking me for my regular reminder spanking. At one point J pulled my ass cheek to one side and spanked the inner part. I can't recall if he's ever done that before. It stung!

I worked on an interesting project today. Awhile back I read somewhere that a man made his wife wear underwear with velcro on the inside anytime she received a spanking. Mostly it was for when she got spanked as a reminder right before they went out somewhere, she'd wear this special underwear so that anytime she moved, the rough part of the velcro rubbed on her already hurting ass. It was to serve as a constant reminder throughout the night.

Well I've never seen any velcro underwear for sale anywhere, so J asked me to make some. I took a pair of my own underwear and bought enough velcro to cover the back part AND the front part. This was also J's idea. That way when I am required to wear it, it will rub on my ass and my pussy. I just finished it today, so I haven't had a chance to wear it yet. I'm hoping I don't have to wear it for a long time, because it looks very uncomfortable. When I am eventually required to wear it, I'll be sure to blog about it.

Punished Again!

I don't know what it is with me, but anytime there is anything different in my schedule (like J gets home from work early, or I am not here when he gets home, etc.) I forget to show him my completed to do list.

I forgot again today and J had to ask me for it. After I showed him the list, he reminded me that I am to show him the list every day when he gets home from work. He led me into the bedroom, pulled my pants down, and had me lay on my stomach on the bed.

We recently got some new implements and J decided to use this new one today:



It's essentially just a belt sewn together at the end. J says it gives him a good amount of control when he swings it.

It feels just like any other belt and it stings. I felt more defiant today, and slightly irritated. It's sometimes hard to see what the big deal is. My list was all finished, so that should be that. But J's point is that he doesn't know it's done if he doesn't see it, with everything all checked off.

The spanking wasn't very long, but he lectured me the whole time. He finished up with a few really hard swats to my ass with his hand. Then it was over.

Tomorrow I will remember...

Forgotten List

I again forgot to show J my completed to-do list on Friday. I don't know why I keep forgetting. This is the 3rd time. I didn't remember until I was already bent over on the bed, with my pants off for my regular Friday reminder spanking.

J said, "Did you forget to do something today?"

At first I didn't know what he was talking about. And then it dawned on me!
I quietly said, "I didn't show you my list."

I got a short lecture and 4 really hard swats with the strap, in addition to my regular reminder spanking. During the lecture J told me he wanted me to journal about forgetting to show him my list, when I get spanked for it, why, and how I felt.

I don't know if he meant for me to do it on the blog or not, but that's where I'm doing it.

January 29th - Today I was spanked because I forgot to show J my to do list.
I felt shocked at first, I was in disbelief that I had forgotten anything. I've been really good at finishing my list. But once I realized I had forgotten to show J, I felt disappointed in myself. I had forgotten again. J asks me how will he know if I have completed my list or not unless I show it to him?

The spanking hurt and I may have yelped once or twice, but I didn't cry. I never do. J led me to the corner and told me to stand there and think about how I'm going to remember to show him my list every day. I'm still not sure exactly how I'm going to remember, but I hope I do!

Later in the evening I made the mistake of whining. J abhors whining. He always tells me he will find something else to put in my mouth. So after about 30 seconds of whining, I found myself on my knees with J's dick in my mouth. He's done this before and usually only has me suck him off for a few minutes, but last night he had me suck him until he came. In the past he has also made me wear a cock gag for whining. He really doesn't like to hear whining.

J has been on a toy buying spree the past week or so. He ordered a bunch of new stuff. The skirt is the only thing that has arrived so far. We are waiting on several slapper type paddles, and some other stuff. I'll post pictures as things arrive.

I'm not quite sure what he's up to with the new toys, but the theme seems to be "things to slap my pussy with". A lot of these new toys are things that will make me feel very submissive and that's something J has been paying a bit more attention to, lately. I feel like I might be headed for a bit of sub-type training in the near future. I am partially excited and partially terrified. I sometimes get very anxious if I feel that I'm not in control. But once I get past that, it's something that makes me feel good in the end.

Not having had my pussy spanked in so long; I am really feeling like something is missing. Not like there's some big flaw in our relationship or anything...more like the very deep level we connect on is just slightly less deep. It's due to some girlie issues I've been having that have prevented us from playing much and I think that's really what I'm missing. Hopefully I will be back to normal soon.

I Need a spanking

I'm glad it's Monday. My spanking schedule has been intermittent for the past couple of weeks. I've been sick off and on, and for some reason I always felt worse after a spanking. So J stopped them for all of last week. And pussy spankings haven't happened in 2 or 3 weeks.

I'm feeling mostly better now, so I am getting a spanking tonight. And I really feel like I need one. One day last week I didn't complete my to do list. I just didn't really care about it. Partly it was because I wasn't feeling well and partly it was because I knew there'd be no immediate consequence. At the time J did say we will discuss it next week.

I hate admitting that I *need* to be spanked, but my motivation slips away so quickly without regular physical reminders. I keep thinking that one of these days we will decrease the reminder spankings to maybe 2 days a week or maybe even once a week, like we once did. But it seems like as long as 3 days a week keep working, J is going to stick with that schedule.

I probably won't get a pussy spanking this week, but those will resume next week. I am feeling like I need one of those too. I haven't felt very submissive or sexual lately. Again it's partly because I am unwell, but it's also because we haven't had that connection in awhile. J has mentioned that he can tell I am in need of one.

I just got a new book. It's called "The Scorpion's Sweet Venom: The Diary of a Brazilian Call Girl" by Bruna Surfistinha. Part memoir, part cautionary tale, part sex guide, Bruna brings to life the raw, desperate and dangerous underbelly of the Brazilian sex trade, and shares outrageous advice for the bedroom, like what men really want but are too afraid to ask. Provocative, seductive and unforgettable, The Scorpion’s Sweet Venom is the vivid account of a young girl’s life on the street, and a fearless expression of human sexuality.

I'll post a review after I read it. Anyone else reading anything?

Motivation & Consequences

J and I talked about consequences tonight. Well he mostly talked (and spanked) and I mostly listened. J asked me if I feel more motivated. I'm not sure motivated is the right word, but I definitely make sure my things are done every day.

I notice that when I'm thinking about not completing my to do list, my first thought is that I know I'll get spanked for it. I say things to myself like, "It won't be so bad." But I've not yet had a punishment spanking since the most recent time we started our version of DD. I know the maintenance spankings are pretty bad, I don't really want to know what a more severe spanking would be like.

Ultimately I decide to complete my list and not find out what a punishment spanking would be like.

I haven't had any corner time in a few weeks. The corner we normally use has been occupied by some boxes of stuff that we need to move to storage. So J has been skipping that part. I can't say I feel any differently about things without the corner time. I know it's supposed to be time to reflect, but I usually just stand there, bored and wondering how much longer I have to stand there. So I haven't missed it.

Since we are talking about corner time, I thought I would comment on another section from the article of unknown origin. (AG = Article Guy)

AG is a big fan of corner time. He requires his wife to be nude while in the corner, which is essentially what J does. Although J does let me wear a robe (untied) if I am chilly.

AG says the minimum amount of corner time should be 10-15 minutes for maintenance, and 20-30 for punishments. J usually only makes me stand in the corner for 5 minutes or less. I get bored standing there and usually my mind drifts to other things that aren't related to the spanking I just received.

AG's reasoning for the length of time is that he says there are cycles of thought. He says his wife might first go through boredom and anger, and only after that will she be able to focus on what got her put in the corner. I definitely get the boredom thing, but I'm not sure I'd ever feel angry.

AG says it is "more effective if you physically place your wife in the corner". I would agree with that. There's something more dominant about J leading me to and placing me in the corner. The same with removing me from the corner when my time is up.

I'm sure if I was getting a punishment spanking, J would require me to stand in the corner for a longer period of time. But let's hope I don't find out anytime soon!

I hope you all have a good weekend and try not to get in trouble!

After 2 weeks of no spankings

Due to the holidays I went about 2 weeks with no spankings. The first one after the break was on Monday. My ass is so sensitive after not being spanked for that long! It's like virgin skin. Because of the spankings on Monday (and again on Wednesday), plus the cold, dry air, I'm getting terrible dry skin. I hate that! J has been putting lots of lotion on my butt, I hope it helps.

Both spankings this week were pretty straightforward. We are struggling a bit to get back into a routine, plus we've both been busier than normal. J has been really great about making it work.

We had our very bestest friends over during Christmas. We don't get to see them often, because they live far away, so we were happy to get to spend some time with them. J and I have discussed telling them about our version of DD. I'd love to be able to share it with someone we are close to. But at the same time, I'm afraid they wouldn't understand. I always find it interesting when I read about people who have families that all participate in DD and similar things. I sometimes wish I had that kind of family. Or at least some friends that shared in our activities.

My New Year's Resolution is to do a better job of keeping up with this blog and post more pictures!

Happy New Year!

Does anyone feel tired after being spanked?

I've been noticing that sometimes after J has spanked me I feel so sleepy. Does this happen to anyone else? I don't know if it's something hormonal or if it's emotional, or maybe a little of both.

Wednesday was what we've been calling maintenance plus. That's a spanking, plus a pussy spanking.

Since I again forgot to show J my to do list when he got home from work, he immediately gave me two intense swats with the strappy thing. (The one I posted a picture of a few days ago.) OUCH!

He then proceeded to spank me, alternating between his hand, the strap, and the trade show ruler. We discussed my motivation and how I wasn't as motivated last week. He reminded me that I should be thinking about the consequences even on my off days.

J told me to flip over for the plus portion of Wednesday's maintenance. He started off with a bare minimum of warm up swats with his hand. It's a pretty intense experience for me. J is normally such a softie, but when he is taking the lead he is so...strong...and controlled. I love to hear him using his commanding voice. When he says, "Who's pussy is this?" And I reply, "It's yours." It just does something to me. I love giving myself to him.

I started thinking about how I'm feeling a combination of love, warmth, being taken care of, being able to give myself so completely to J, I feel his strength, but I'm also feeling pain. During all of this he's still spanking my pussy with his hand and the smooth ruler. He isn't gentle. He uses one hand to spread me open and the other to spank the very sensitive inside part of my lips. J also uses the ruler on my nipples. He is a fan of the short, sharp swats. The ones that sting!

Whatever it is we're doing with our version of DD, it seems to be working. We're definitely not perfect, but we both feel this way is a positive thing in our lives. So we'll stick with it for now.

No warm up

(This blog post was from last Monday, I just forgot to post it!)

J started right in with that awful strap tonight. No warm up or anything! Partly it was because Mondays are the start of a new week and I hadn't been spanked all weekend. The other part was because I forgot to show him my to-do list when he got home from work.

He says if I don't show it to him, how does he know it's completed? He will just assume it is not, if I don't show it to him.

So I got a few extra (and hard!) swats with the strap while J was lecturing me.

It was almost unbearable. I was sort of in and out of sub space. When he said "Last 10, count out loud," I didn't think I was going to be able to do it. It's the closest I've ever come to crying from a spanking.

I will definitely remember to show him my list tomorrow!