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Preemptive Spanking before a Social Event

We had a social event this past weekend and about an hour before we left, J told me he was going to spank me to make sure I didn't speak to anyone with that tone that he hates.

I have been getting spanked every day for the last week, so my ass was already very sore.

J said it would just be a quick reminder, and would happen immediately before we left.

I choose to wear a long skirt and a nice blouse.  

About 5 minutes before we walked out the door, J told me to bend over the arm of the couch.  He pulled my skirt up and pulled down my underwear.  He told me to step out of them and that I wouldn't be needed them for the evening.

My skin prickled when I heard the buckle of his belt being undone.  Next was the familiar sound of it sliding out of all the belt loops.  He doubled it and spanked me with it 4 times (twice on each cheek).  It was very hard and I was instantly near tears.

He stood me up to face him and asked me if I was going to be pleasant to everyone and not use any cocky or sarcastic tone.  I agreed.  

J was quick to remind me that if he heard any tone, saw any eye rolling, or anything of the like, he would discipline me right then and there.

I asked, "In front of everyone?"

He said, "No, of course not. We'll excuse ourselves and find some place private."

I told him that would not be necessary, I would be on my best behavior.  

And I'm  happy to report that I did not earn any additional spankings this weekend.

BDSM practitioners 'healthier and less neurotic' than 'vanilla' peers?

Have you all been wondering where I've been?
For the past 6 months my cousins and I have been alternating taking care of one of our aunts.  I live in a different state, so I stayed with her for a month at a time.  The hardest part for me was being away from J for so long.  I should be able to stay home through the summer before I have to go back.

I've been home for a couple of weeks, and J has been hinting that he wants to get me back on a spanking schedule.  He says I seems stressed out and full of anxiety and he knows it helps me find calm when he takes charge of those things.

I think he's right.

While I was away, I read this article: "Whips, chains and full of life: BDSM practitioners 'healthier and less neurotic' than 'vanilla' peers".  You can read it here - http://www.nypost.com/p/news/international/whips_chains_neurotic_vanilla_peers_ebwiuRduLQ0AIznbiNZS9O

Do you agree with the article?

Wearing the Collar

This was a text between J and I today.

me: Do you have an outfit preference for tonight?
J: same as yesterday but with your collar.
me:  ok
J:  In fact, your collar should go on as soon as you wake up.

Well that's new.  

This week has been full of new things for J and I. I've been meaning to blog about it, but have been so wrapped up in J.  

He has been commanding and dominant and strict, and I have been making an effort to try to go with it and step out of my comfort zone from time to time. It's been fun and exciting and scary and uncomfortable all at the same time. I always go through many emotions when fantasy becomes reality.

I have been dressing (or undressing) for J and greeting him when he gets home from work.  The anticipation of him getting home and the process of getting ready to present myself to him in a way he will love, has been energizing.  I have been wearing a collar when in J's presence, but I guess tomorrow that will be changing to all day.  I have to find out what he will say about taking off the collar to go out.

I have worn the collar once, in public, so far.  It was on a trip to the grocery store, with J, and I had a scarf on.  I'm pretty sure no one saw it, but it was nerve wracking.  It was also kind of thrilling at the same time.  I have no idea how I would explain it if I ran into someone I knew and they saw it.  

In Control

J has been so super horny the last few days, and he always acts more dominant and playful when he's like that. I think it's because he knows he doesn't have to travel as much in the next few weeks, and he's looking forward to the extra days at home.

We got to talk about all kinds of things this weekend and one of them was control. J says he really likes the control. I said I liked when he had control, too. I also told him how much I love pleasing and pleasuring him. 

We got to play a lot this weekend - we were like 2 teenagers! We haven't really had much time together lately so we were both a little pent up.

But there were also a few times where J was serious. He told me he wanted to work more on everything, including my submission to him. I agreed.

He kept me well spanked all weekend. He would just randomly spank me throughout the day. We would just be watching a movie or making lunch or something and he would gently guide me over his knee and spank me for a few quick minutes. During each spanking, he asked me if I was sure I wanted him to be in charge.  I said "yes".  He asked if I would stop fighting him on things I didn't want to do.  I said "yes", but that one is going to be hard. 

I know that normally if there's something I really don't want to do, J won't make me. He always gives in. But not this time. He said it's going to be different this time. (I do have a safe word, if it gets to be too much, though.)

An example is that he was telling me to do something and I was resisting.  

He said, "If you pull away again, I'm going to paddle you."
  
I later asked him if he really would have paddled me. He said "Absolutely."

Now that is different for him. He normally would have said no.  

He also told me to go do the dishes this morning, after breakfast. He has never said that before. He doesn't usually pay attention to my housekeeping skills (or lack thereof). I loved it.  I so much want to be a good housewife, always having all the chores done and always having a clean house.  The only reason I don't is because I get lazy. If J keeps on me to keep up with the dishes, vacuuming, dusting, etc... I'm much more likely to get them all done, and we'll both be happier.

I'm going to try really hard to just let go and go with it.  So far, it's been lots of fun. 

How can we get back to our spanking schedule?

It's been about 7 months of J's new traveling schedule, and we can't seem to find a way to get back on OUR schedule.

As soon as we start again with consistent spanking, he has to leave for a week. The disruption is unwelcome every time, and it messes up our "flow", for lack of a better word.

We have been able to play, but there just hasn't been time for the discipline side of our lives. When he is home we're usually trying to catch up with house stuff, family stuff, friend stuff. And just enjoying each other's company.

Does anyone else have this type of problem? How do you overcome it? How do you work discipline into your schedule?

Missing the Structure of Spanking

It's been so long since J and I have had any real spanking schedule or anything DD related, at all. Things just keep getting in the way.

The latest is J's job has him traveling more than normal. So far I've been able to go with him on several trips, but there's not a lot we can do in a hotel room that doesn't make noise.

I'm finding myself starting to miss the structure of having consequences. I like the routine of reminder spankings.

J has been wanting to spank me lately, but there has not been the opportunity. I did get my pussy spanked briefly a few days ago. J wanted a blow job before bed and I just wasn't in the mood. I said no, and J immediately flipped me over onto my back and hand-spanked my pussy. He reminded me of our agreement and told me I was in desperate need of a spanking.

We could start back on a schedule this week, but J has a trip coming up that I am unable to go on, so I don't want to get started back into a routine just to have to take a 2-week break again so soon. Sigh.

Did you think I fell off the face of the earth?

Nope! I'm still here.

My injuries (foot/knee) are all healed! They have been for awhile, but then things got hectic with J's business, and then we were traveling over the holidays, then we had house guests....

We haven't been on our spanking schedule in months. Mostly due to our busy schedule, guests, etc. But also I just haven't been in the right mindset for it. I can tell J is anxious to get back into things, but I think I take longer to decompress and ease our way back into it.

A few times over the past weeks and months, J did spank me, but only for a few minutes at a time and never for any serious infraction. Mostly just play.

He has given me a bedtime again. I had been staying up way too late and then sleeping late and not getting enough done during the day. So I once again have a set time to be in bed. That just started again last week. I hate having to watch the clock, though.

I will try to blog more often, but for now I'll leave you with this picture...

Where has the time gone?

Hello everyone!

I'm still here! I haven't dropped off the face of the earth!

It's been a long past couple of months. As many of you know I broke my foot. It made everything very difficult, including all spanking activities. We tried a few times, but it never really worked. Then, the last time, I twisted my knee! That took a few weeks to heal and made things just that much harder.

I'm all healed now, but I find myself still moving very cautiously. J and I are both nervous about resuming my spanking schedule. Mostly the problem arrises in my inability to not squirm. If I jolt my knee or foot I'm afraid it will hurt!

I don't have much else to report. We had a great summer, even with my injury. I hope you all did, too.

*cassady

Foot Update and a Spanking

My foot is mostly better, I've had lots of physical therapy and I can walk around a bit more now. J and I still haven't really been able to get back into things; it's surprising how hard it is to get into certain positions with an injured foot. It's like I'm missing a whole leg. Not only can my foot not bear a lot of weight/pressure, but my whole leg is weaker from lack of use, so it's harder to support myself in different positions that I'm used to.

J did, however, find a way to spank me today. He said he thought I really needed it (which I did). We were laying on our bed and my legs were dangling over the edge, so there was no pressure on my foot or leg. He spread open my legs and spanked my pussy. It wasn't hard, but it stung. I could not stay still either. J said I was squirming much more than usual, which tells him I am too much out of practice. He said he will need to remedy that.

I then stood in front of J and he bent me over slightly, so that I was pretty much standing, but putting most of my weight on my hands, leaning on the bed. He grabbed a nearby wooden brush and paddled me with the flat side of it.

It wasn't very long, but it was a definite reminder that I shouldn't let myself become lazy or neglect my chores (at least the ones I'm able to do with a broken foot!)

Broke my Foot!

Just a quick update to let everyone know what has been going on here. I apologize for not updating sooner.

Last month I broke my foot. ACK!

It's healing nicely, but J and I haven't been able to do much playing or spanking or anything.

I have a removable cast and crutches, so I've been able to get around a little, but mostly I have to keep it elevated and iced.

I was depressed when it first happened. The loss of mobility was terrible. And I haven't been spanked in nearly a month!

Hopefully I'll be healed soon (they say 6-8 weeks) and we can get back to business! lol

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Chore Charts & Cleaning Lists

I found this site that has Chore Charts, Cleaning Lists, and other household management tools that you can print for free.

http://moneysavingmom.com/downloads/household-management-forms

I generally just make a to do list on a piece of scrap paper, but I like the organization of the forms on that site. And it lets you easily customize them to your own needs.

I showed them to J and he said they would be much easier to read than my "scribbles" that I write down on the scrap paper. I'm going to print a few tonight and see if it helps make me more organized.

I've had an easy week so far. J gives me a lot of slack when it's that time of the month. I've been keeping up with my chores, but J has crossed a few things off of my list when I haven't been feeling well, and I haven't been spanked at all.

Next week will be a different story...

Reminder Spankings

After getting reminder spankings every weekday for 2 weeks, J told me he thinks I am ready to go back to our old schedule of 3x a week.

My first reaction was relief to not be getting spanked every day. But then I started to wonder if I might actually need daily spankings to keep on the path I'm on. The past 2 weeks I feel like I've been mostly on top of things and am getting better at being submissive to J.

Maybe I need daily reminders . It puts me in a certain headspace where I feel like I'm confident in my place and what I have to do.

I'm beginning to realize I like the routine and accountability involved in our version of DD. It makes me feel safe and secure to know that someone cares about what I do and will help me be a better person, even if those ways might be unconventional.

I like to know that I am going to get spanked on certain days and at certain times, even if I haven't done anything wrong. I know some people think that it's unfair to be spanked for "no reason", but I don't see it that way at all. I see it as J knowing enough about me to know what I need, and he follows through. And I definitely need to be spanked regularly. Otherwise I just fall to pieces. Not emotionally - I'm always very happy with my life, but as far as getting things done - errands, chores, etc... I just get so lazy, I just don't do anything. The reminder spankings really help keep me on track.

I'm hoping 3 spankings a week will be enough for me to happily get my to-do lists done, and not struggle with finishing it each night. And I hope the weekly pussy spanking is enough to help me be submissive to J without any complaints or hesitation.

If anyone wants to post in the comments, or email me privately, I'd love to know what spanking schedule you have and if it's working.

I am a submissive woman

I just read this poem at the CornerTime blog. It really says a lot of how I feel about being submissive to J.

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I am a submissive woman

I find pleasure, joy, and fulfillment from being submissive

to my Husband in a loving relationship.

I am not weak or stupid. I am a strong woman,

with firm views and a clear concept of what I want out of my life.

I do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength.

I will look to my loving Husband for guidance and protection, for never

will I be more complete than when He is with me.

I know that He will protect my body, my mind, and my soul

with His strength and wisdom.

He is everything to me, as I am everything to Him.

His touch awakens me and His thoughts free me.

Only in serving Him do I find complete freedom and joy…

His punishments may be harsh, but I accept them thankfully,

knowing that He has my best interests always foremost in His mind.

If He desires my body for pleasure, I shall joyfully give it to Him

and take pleasure myself from knowing that I have brought Him happiness.

However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of our relationship.

The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt,

those are all parts of this relationship.

My body is His, and if He says I am beautiful, then I am.

No matter what I look like to others, I am beautiful in His eyes,

and because of that I hold my head high.

If He says I am His precious jewel,

then I am that…a beautiful, sparkling gem.

If He says that I am His pet, His slut, His whore, then I am that..

as wanton and dirty as He wants me to be.

My mind is His, to expand, to explore, to know only as He can.

I have no secrets from Him… for secrets are a thing that would

keep me from being more perfectly His.

Secrets would put a wall up between my Husband and myself…

and I do not want walls.

His lessons are not always ones I would seek on my own,

but they are lessons He has decided that I need, and so I learn from Him.

My soul is His, as bare to His touch as ever my skin could be

when I kneel naked at His feet.

Never a moment goes by when I do not feel His presence,

be He miles away or standing over me.

If I were to ever displease Him, His displeasure would be a blow to my soul,

worse punishment than any lashes could be.

The anguish of my soul that I feel when I disappoint Him

is harder to bear than any physical anguish I feel.

I am grateful that he cares enough about me to spend

His time and energy so freely on me.

I have the easier job, to feel, to experience,

to let myself go and abandon everything to Him.

I am His pleasure and His responsibility, and He takes both seriously .

I am a submissive woman.

I am proud to call myself that, my submission is a gift that I do not give lightly,

and can only be given to the One who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold.

Only to my Husband who has that strength, will I give myself fully,

because I am strong and proud.

I am a submissive woman.

~Author Unknown

Back Home and Finally Alone!

Before we left for the beach, my brother told us he's moving in with his girlfriend! He doesn't have very many belongings, so his move was quick and easy.

We are finally alone again!

While we were away J told me that we were going back to regular, reminder spankings. I was under the impression that we were going to be returning to our former schedule of 3 reminder spankings a week plus one pussy spanking. But J informed me that I'd be getting spanked every day, until further notice!

The first week was mostly spent getting back into routine. I was spanked every day Monday through Friday. Wednesday I also got a pussy spanking. I struggled a little bit during the week. I did not want to be spanked every day. And by the end of the week I was so sore!

But on the other hand, my to do list was done, plus I even had time to do EXTRA! That part was fantastic.

This week started and J said we would again have daily reminder spankings. Monday wasn't too bad, but Tuesday hurt like crazy! I am very sore from all these spankings!

Mostly J has been reminding me of why we are doing this. As much as I don't like the spankings, something is definitely working, because I have been able to complete my chores and daily to do lists with tons of extra time to spare!

Last night, right before bed, J told me to take off my clothes and lay on the bed. He started playing with my clit the way I love him to. He was asking me whose pussy it was, and I replied "yours". It was so hot. Then, right before I was about to cum, he stopped and told me to take over. I did and he spanked my pussy very hard and said CUM! I had barely just gotten my fingers in place! He then proceeded to spank my pussy really fast and hard without stopping and kept telling me to cum. I didn't cum right away, but it was much quicker than normal, and it was intense! This is definitely J's new favorite game.

Ahhhh...it's good to be back home and back on track.

Birthday Spanking Week (Part 4)

(Read Part 1 Here)

(Read Part 2 Here)

(Read Part 3 Here)

Wednesday I was woken up with kisses and flowers. They smelled so sweet and filled the whole room. While I was still laying in bed, J gave me a nice, sensual full body massage, which turned into some fantastic sex. What a wonderful way to wake up on my birthday!

We had a small breakfast and took showers, and afterwards J reached over to me and started to put on my collar & leash. He hesitated and said, "We don't have to do this if you don't want to. If you want to spend your birthday some other way."

I gave him a quick kiss and told him I was all his.

He led me out to the deck and told me to kneel. I did and he fucked my face for just a few minutes. He then led me off the deck onto the grass and had me crawl around the yard on all fours, with him pulling on the leash. We don't often do things like that, but it was exciting being outside. It's very private and no one can see us, but it still feels exhibition-like. A few times he swatted my ass, as I was crawling and I was afraid the sound would carry. But it wasn't likely anyone would be able to tell where exactly it was coming from.

We spent a lot of time outside since the weather was perfectly warm and breezy. One thing J likes to do is open my pussy lips very wide and just hold them there. It makes me feel very exposed. Every time he did that, I could feel the breeze on my clit. It was just enough so I could feel it, but too light of a sensation to do any good. It was making me want to reach down and apply the right amount of pressure so that I could cum. But when I suggested this to J, he said no.

A few hours later, we went back in the house and J said I was going to finish what was started outside. He layed on the couch and I knelt next to him. He grabbed the leash and pulled me down to him. He reached around to the back of my head and guided me right to his cock. I hesitated and he said "Open."

I opened my mouth and he easily slid in. It didn't take very long for him to cum, since he'd been on the verge for hours.

He told me we had just enough time for one more spanking, before we had to leave. He arranged me over the ottoman and gave me a nice long warm up with his hand. He then alternated between a small wooden paddle and our leather strap. He spanked me for a very long time. It felt like an hour. Since my legs were spread wide, he also had access to my pussy, and he made sure to swat there a few times with his hand, in between swats to my ass with the paddle & strap. J said he wanted to ensure I would be ready to start back to our old schedule next week.

After my spanking, J said he would like to see me make myself cum. I flipped over on the ottoman, and started rubbing my clit. J watched me for a few minutes, and then gave me a quick swat with his hand. "Cum," he commanded. I can never cum on cue, but J likes to make me try. And once he thinks it's time, he spanks my pussy, without stopping, until I do cum. My pussy was getting sore like he spanked it for hours, but I think it only took about 4 minutes!

J let me lay on the ottoman for awhile to recover while he loaded the car. Before we left, I got dressed in regular clothes, which felt really strange. J took my collar and leash off, but he said I was going to be wearing the cock gag the whole way home. I gave him an alarmed look, but he assured me that it would be dark, and no one would be able to see me. He wasn't going to buckle the strap in the back, and if we came to any well lit areas, I could remove it. Same for toll booths or if we got pulled over.

I was sad about going back home, but at the same time glad to know that next week I would be back on track and getting things accomplished. And I had such a fun birthday week, both with our friends, and after they left!

Birthday Spanking Week (Part 3)

(Read Part 1 Here)

(Read Part 2 Here)

Part 3

Tuesday started out much like Monday with breakfast, then me on my knees in the shower, followed by air drying on the deck.

After being naked for a couple of days it starts to become less noticeable to me. I become a little more comfortable, though it makes going anywhere impossible. J came out to the deck with my collar and leash. Once they were on, he led me back into the house, and directly over his knee. He gave me a good warm up hand spanking. The whole time reminding me of what I agreed to, and what tasks I was supposed to be accomplishing every day. I felt him reach down next to him and the next thing I felt was one of his paddles on my ass. I haven't felt that in a long time and I had forgotten how much it hurts! J didn't spank hard, but he spanked long. I didn't think it was ever going to end.

Once J was done spanking my ass, he immediately led me into the guest bedroom, layed me over some pillows on the bed, face up and began spanking my pussy with his hand. "Who's pussy is this?" he asked me. "Yours," I responded meekly. J held my lips open with one hand and slapped my clit with his other. That really hurts! But at the same time I've been constantly just on the verge of cumming.

J told me to cross my legs at my ankles. I did and he grabbed them and lifted my legs up and started spanking me in the "diaper position". I think he's only ever done that once before, so it was unexpected. Each slap was just grazing the small part of my pussy that peeks through my closed legs. He then let go of my legs, but told me to hold them up. I heard the rattle of his belt. There is something about that sound that terrifies me and turns me on at the same time. J knows this so he makes sure to do it slowly and make sure I hear every bit of the sounds it makes. I could hear him undoing the buckle and pulling it through the loops. I was nervous. It's so rare that J uses the belt on me and I'm out of practice and I'm already sore. I wasn't sure if I could do this. J grabbed ahold of my legs again and I felt the first thwack of the belt. I yelped. One more thwack and J said that was enough of that for now.

Getting spanked is exhausting. I don't know why but so often I feel tired after getting a good spanking, and this was no exception. J told me to take a nap, which I happily did.

I was woken up an hour later by J licking my pussy. I was still laying on the edge of the bed, and I guess it was too much for him to resist. He fucked me with his tongue until I was fully satisfied. I almost felt like I needed another nap after that, but J had other plans. He told me he wanted to train my mouth to make sure my jaw would get used to being opened a lot, so I was always ready for him. As he was telling me this, he was inserting my cock gag and attaching the buckle behind my head. The cock gag isn't huge, but it does make my mouth feel like it's being stretched. He told me I'd be wearing that for most of the rest of the day.

We were both getting hungry, so J decided we'd have a quick bite on the deck. First we went into the kitchen and he had me bend over the table and spread my legs wide so he could see me while he was making the sandwiches. I was feeling vulnerable and sexy at the same time. He took the sandwiches and my leash and led me out onto the deck. I took the gag out only long enough to eat the sandwich and have a glass of water, then it was placed right back in my mouth.

We didn't do much of anything else for the rest of the afternoon, just watched TV and read some, though I did have the gag in the whole time.

We decided to have pizza for dinner, but we had to go pick it up. J had me put my wrap around skirt on as a dress, so I tied it under my arms and just let it hang. It barely covered my ass, but thankfully I didn't have to get out of the car. He also handed me my cock pacifier and told me he didn't want me to be without a cock in my mouth for that long. On the ride there, J pushed the skirt open at the slit so the whole front of me was exposed. He told me to spread my legs, and keep them spread. The pacifier just looks like a regular pacifier on the end that's not in my mouth, but still I am obviously a grown woman, so it still doesn't look normal! I tried to sink low in the seat and just hope no one noticed. I was allowed to cover myself up when we got to the parking lot, but I still had to keep the pacifier in. I know people saw.

After dinner J suggested we go to the beach. There's a private beach near the house that we can walk to. I like seeing the moon reflecting on the ocean at night, so of course I agreed. J again told me to wear my wrap around skirt as a dress, nothing underneath. And again he put the pacifier in my mouth. When we got to the beach we set our chairs near the water line. J arranged my skirt so that my whole front was exposed. The moon wasn't very bright so I don't think anyone would have been able to see me unless they got close, and by then we'd have seen them. We sat there for hours enjoying the night and each other.

(...to be continued)

I'll post Part 4 soon. It's the last day of our vacation and of my birthday spanking adventure. I can't wait to finish it, so I can tell you what's been happening THIS week.