A month behind!

Hello spankos! I apologize for being so neglectful. J and I have been running crazy, which is always the case this time of year for us. It starts right before Thanksgiving and continues through the New Year.

I am still getting my regular spankings and maintaining my to do list (barely), but we have been more relaxed about our rules. There just isn't time to be strict.

I did manage to start a new book called Power Exchange by Madeleine Oh.

I've only had a chance to read the first few pages, but so far it seems like a good read.

The back of the book reads:

Mark has found the perfect woman - a born submissive. Nothing is more exciting than the subjugation of an independent woman, but Mark soon discovers that while he can control desires of the flesh he cannot control desires of the heart.

Annie’s lover reveals to her a most intriguing side to his personality, a lifestyle she is drawn to that is both fascinating and intimidating. She is about to learn more about her lover and his wishes, and about herself and her latent desires.

You can get it at Amazon, if you're interested.
The ISBN is 978-1-843605-70-6.

Spanking with a Bath Brush

I was cleaning the bathrooms today and it got me thinking about a story I once read.

The husband was very particular about cleanliness and neatness. The wife was good at cleaning, but often left her cleaning brushes and sprays out on the counter. The husband requested she put the supplies back where they belong after cleaning. She claimed the scrub brushes needed to dry before she could put them away. The husband agreed, but said by the end of the night they should be dry enough to be stored away under the sink.

After having the same conversation a few times, the husband tells her to buy a scrubber brush next time she is at the store. He informs her that his plan is to spank her with it next time she leaves the cleaning supplies out. He was tired of telling her over and over.

His story ends with him saying he has spanked her only once so far with the scrubby brush and she hated it, but she has remembered to put the brushes and sprays back in their place every time since then.

Does anyone here have an arrangement like that? Have you ever gotten spanked with a bath brush?

Back to the spanking schedule

J feels that I've been motivated and progressing well toward my goals each day, so we are back to 3 reminder spankings a week. He spanked me extra hard on Monday, to be sure I'd be thinking about it until Wednesday. I have been gradually feeling more motivated. The more things I can accomplish, the more motivated I feel. I don't know why I need to be spanked, but when I don't have those consequences I slack off immediately!

We've also been working on my submission, which I've mentioned before. Often J is very lenient and gives me many chances to do what he says. It's pretty common that I will hem and haw and he will say "Do you want your pussy spanked?" And I will say no, and we will go back and forth like that until I eventually do as I'm told.

But over the weekend, I got a glimpse of a much more strict J. He asked me to show him my tits. I hesitated for a second and he very calmly grabbed my hand and let me into the bedroom. Without a word he laid me back on the bed, took off my pants and proceeded to spank my pussy with his hand. He switched over to the ruler and spanked for probably 5 straight minutes without stopping! He reminded me that I asked to be punished when I did not comply with what he was telling me to do. He asked me several times if I understood and agreed. Of course I did. The pussy spanking didn't last very long, but it was hard and fast. When he was done, he told me to come into the office. I was allowed to put my pants back on, but no shirt. J placed me on a stool next to his desk, in sort of a time-out for 10 minutes while we talked about our agreement. He had his hands on my tits during the whole lecture. I was not allowed a shirt until the next morning.

Spanking week 2

J decided this week was going to be a repeat of last week, as far as spankings go. He says I'm doing great with getting my to-do list completed, but thinks I'm still not quite as motivated as I should be. And I agree. He also upped by bedtime, just by 15 minutes for now, to help me get moving a bit earlier in the day.

So I will be spanked every day this week, plus pussy spanked 3 times, and immediately after I will give J a blow job. He says after this week if I'm back to being as motivated as I need to be, we can resume our old schedule of 3 reminder spankings a week.

We are also working on my level of sexual submission to J. I want to get back to the point where my body is available to him whenever he wants it. I used to always be game for sex, but now I just feel old and fat. I find that when the choice is made for me, I can get past any grumpy feelings I might be having and get right to the fun parts.

Over the weekend, J presented me with a pacifier that has a penis as the rubber part that goes in your mouth. We don't get into the age play scene, but as part of my submission, J will sometimes treat me like a child.

Today he told me I was to place the pacifier in my mouth before I left the house and keep it there anytime I was in the car. Of course no one can see the penis part when it's in my mouth, but they can still see a grown woman with a pacifier in her mouth! And it's not easy to hide - it's got a big, baby blue, plastic ring. Here is a picture of it:

I drove with it all the way to the Post Office and back with it securely in my mouth, and it seems like I hit every red light and a lot of traffic.

I feel like everyone saw me.

I don't even know what they thought.

4 Days of Spankings, so far

My ass is very sore from being spanked 4 days in a row. I have one more day of spanking tomorrow and then J will decide how we will proceed next week. The spankings have increased in intensity throughout the week, so I'm looking forward to the break this weekend.

I have been getting my to do lists done, but it's been a struggle; I'm just barely motivated, and find myself having to rush to get things done before I have to be in bed.

It has been nice having everything finished each day. I can go to bed knowing the house is clean and I can start the next day fresh, without anything hanging over my head.

After my spankings, J has been sending me to the corner. I am supposed to think about how these reminder spankings are keeping me motivated, and all the reasons we choose to live this way. I have a really hard time with that. My mind wanders almost instantly. And I end up thinking about everything except for what I'm supposed to be thinking about.

I have one more pussy spanking left tomorrow. That hasn't been too bad, because I've been getting a 1 day break in between. The last one for the week is tomorrow, and it'll probably be the most severe of the week, since J will want the reminder to stick with me until the next time I get a pussy spanking.

J texted me in the middle of the day today and told me to masturbate. At first I felt like I didn't have time, but it turned out to be a welcome break in my day. And who doesn't like having orgasms? lol.

I see J embracing his role again, and it makes me proud and happy to know that he's so comfortable and natural doing what's best for us.

Back to our Spanking Routine, day 1

Promptly at 6pm, J instructed me to go to the bedroom and take off my clothes. He had already arranged many of our implements on the bed. He was clearly ready to start back up with our version of DD.

Once I was face down, J started with a brief lecture. He reminded me that I am to stay motivated to achieve my daily goals and complete my daily to do list. And if I do not, there will be consequences. He started spanking me gently, due to my not having been consistently spanked for several months. He continued the lecture saying that when he holds me accountable, he finds that he is more motivated and holds himself at a higher standard. So it is very important that we stay on track.

He also reminded me that whining will not be tolerated. If I whine, J will make sure to find something else for me to do with my mouth (with an option to also spank me).

J increased the speed and intensity of the spanking, and repeated the lecture a few more times. My ass was definitely sensitive and I was squirming and fussing. At one point J used his hand to spank me really quickly one right after the other on one cheek, and then the same on the other cheek. It made me feel a bit like a child; that's usually the way I imagine a parent spanking their kid. But I guess if I act like a child by whining, I should be treated like one.

Once J decided I had enough for the first day, he repeated the lecture and asked me if I understood (yes). I counted the last 10 swats out loud.

J then positioned me on my back, across his lap, where he had good access to my pussy. He went over my original agreement with him to never deny him sexually, unless I was ill or injured. Some people may think that might be extreme, but it really works for us. J is not demanding, and anytime I'm not in the mood, but I say yes anyway, it ends up being enjoyable and I'm glad I didn't turn him down.

He then proceeded to spank my pussy with his hand, a leather strap, and a wooden ruler he sanded down smooth, just for this purpose. He also spent some time playing with my clit. He would rub it for a few seconds and then spank it for a few seconds. It really hurts when he spanks my clit, but J always seems to know just how much I can take.

When my pussy was sufficiently pink, I was sent to the corner to think about the spankings I had just received and the reason for them.

After standing in the corner for about 10 minutes, J called me to him. He already had a pillow waiting for me (how nice!). He guided me down to my knees and placed his rock hard cock in my mouth. He also positioned a full length mirror next to us, because he wanted to watch. I tried to put on a good show for him.

I took a quick shower to rinse all the cum off of me and refresh myself. I get so tired after a spanking.

Back on Schedule

So J told me today that it was time for me to get back on a schedule.

"What kind of schedule?"

He started with "6pm spanking"

I waited for him to say Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, because that was our schedule before.

But he continued with "every day."

Then he added, "We have a lot of catching up to do."

Eek! But he's right, I do need to get back on a regular schedule. Not just with spanking, but with everything else in my life, too. We got so busy this summer and got far away from schedules and rituals. I've been a total slacker with chores and daily tasks that need to be done.

I just can't seem to be productive unless I know there are definite consequences. Lucky for me, J is willing to provide those consequences.

We also agreed (long ago) that I would submit to J sexually. Anytime I "don't feel like it", J reminds me of our agreement. And every time, I'm glad I was reminded because I always enjoy it and feel happy that we did it. That may sound weird to some people, but it's just how I'm wired. (And I always have veto power over the whole thing if it's not working for me.)

J also added that to get me used to our arrangement, I'll be performing orally on him every day following my spanking.

I feel like J is more than ready to step back into his role of expecting me to do what I say I'm going to do, and providing the consequences when I don't. He can be strict sometimes, but it works for us.

I don't know if he's going to incorporate things like corner time, bedtimes, and other punishments back in. I expect he will. It feels like I haven't stood in a corner for eons. J didn't specifically mention pussy spankings either, but I think it's assumed that they will be resuming, as well.

I see so many relationships falling apart all around me, but J and I remain strong. I think a lot of it has to do with our version of DD. A lot of my friends don't seem to communicate very well with their spouses. J and I communicate clearly and openly all the time, and I attribute much of that to our version of DD.

I'm happy we found something that works great for us, even if we do stray away from it sometimes.

Some spanking humor

Spanking at the beach

We have some friends with a beach house and they often invite us to go with them. This time the way our schedules worked out, we would be arriving one day before them and have to leave a day earlier.

I didn't know but J had packed a paddle and a strap. We got there on a Wednesday, which is a usual spanking day. But we have gotten so far off of our normal schedule this summer that I wasn't even thinking about it.

Until J said, "Take your clothes off and bend over the bed."

I saw him get the strap out, followed by one of our small paddles. J said since we had an extra day to ourselves, and some rare downtime he wanted to take full advantage of it. Plus he said I could always use the reminder.

It was a mild spanking, which I was glad about. I wasn't sure I could take much, since my ass is out of practice. J was sure to remind me that even though I wasn't getting spanked regularly I should still do things I know I need to do and not get impatient with people and treat them rudely, or anything like that. It's definitely much harder to be bitchy when my ass is on fire!

After that J put the paddle & strap away and we enjoyed a rare day of total relaxation and fun with no commitments to anyone or anything, just each other.

Just a picture for now

I hate that I have been neglecting this blog. I just have not had any time to devote to it lately. And with J being gone so much we have been neglecting each other as well.

Since I have a spare second tonight, I thought I would stop in and say hi very quickly.

Hi. (very quickly).

I'll leave you with this picture I found somewhere on the Internet. I think it's super cute.

Face Slapping

Awhile ago I started commenting on an article I saved. As I've mentioned, I do not know the origin of this article, so if any of it sounds familiar to you, please send me a message or leave me a comment.

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One topic the Article Guy (AG) discusses is Face Slapping.

AG says he does not use face slapping regularly with his wife, but he did find it effective in the beginning of their DD relationship. He says when he does utilize it, he never slaps hard, it's more about the submission than causing any pain. He advises not to slap much harder than how you would pat a baby's back. You can "do it a few times to really get her attention". He says to be careful of the cheek bone and to stick with the fleshy parts of the cheek. AG noticed his wife became instantly submissive when he would slap her face.

With his wife kneeling in front of him AG "cups my wife's chin and make her look at me. I slap her cheeks and scold her at the same time."

AG says his wife finds this very humbling.

I can see how it would be.

J slaps my face sometimes. It's always when I'm in a submissive state, like during a weekly pussy spanking. He never has and never would do it in anger. We both agree that would be crossing a line. He's never slapped me hard, it's more startling and attention-getting than anything else.

Next time I need to be scolded, maybe J will try AG's kneeling technique.

So how do you feel about face slapping?

I need to be spanked!

I hate saying those words. But it's true. There hasn't been a spanking here in weeks. And for once, it's not because one of us didn't want to. It's been a timing issue.

There was a training class in a nearby city that J might have had to been a part of. It was looking like he wasn't going to have to go, but at the last minute he was told he was needed. It's not far, only about an hour and a half drive each way, so he is home every night. But with 3 hours of extra driving time and 9 hours of training, he mostly just eats and sleeps when he is home.

He's been going for 3 weeks and has another 3 to go.

We'll both be glad when it's over. J commented last night how quickly we fall out of the routine when it gets disturbed. I know that I so easily slipped back into total laziness. I haven't been getting anything done, which is how I know I need to be spanked.

Although, I'm sure 4 weeks from now, after my ass is nice and red, I will be complaining that I don't want to be spanked. ha. ha.

4th of July fireworks

J and I decided to stay home and create our own fireworks on the 4th. We usually go to the park downtown, but they were expecting rain and huge crowds, so we decided to skip it. Instead we made a bunch of snacks, rented some movies, and got a bottle of wine.

We were laying on the couch, neither of us wearing much. J nodded toward his dick and said, "Why don't you get your head down there right now?" He said it in a half playful, half serious way.

When I hesitated, he flipped me over on my back and gave my pussy a few quick slaps that stung. That got me motivated. I took him in my mouth and put on a performance for him that went back and forth between sexy and silly, which fit the mood perfectly.

Later J looked at me and said, "I want you to cum. Right now."

I protested, "I can't cum on cue!"

He told me to try. So I started masturbating furiously as he spanked my pussy. He kept saying "cum now".

I didn't cum instantly, but it was probably quicker than ever before. And I think I may have seen some fireworks behind my eyes.

We restarted the movie we had been watching, refilled our wine glasses, and cuddled for the rest of the night. Way better than the fireworks in the park!

Consistent Spankings

I have this exfoliating scrubby thing in the shower that I like to use once or twice a week.

It used to be that I'd use the scrubby thing when there were going to be multiple days between my spankings. The surface is rough and it hurts when I rub it across my freshly spanked ass.

But now, since I get spanked three times a week, there is no more multiple days between spankings. So I've been having to exfoliating on my freshly spanked ass a couple of times a week. Not fun.

Even though J and I have have been running a million different directions these past few weeks, he has made sure not to miss any of our spanking appointments. It's pretty much the only thing that's been consistent around here.

I think he might be taking those times to get out some frustration, as well, because lately he's been using more and more implements at one time and the spankings seem to be lasting a lot longer.

I've been keeping up with my list very well, so I haven't been punished for quite some time. And J has been pleased with my level of motivation.

I have been getting my weekly pussy spankings, but other than that we haven't worked very much on my submission. There just hasn't been time.

We did get some potentially good news this week. There is a house a few miles from us that J and I are in love with. We got to see the inside of it once and we both wanted to buy it. Unfortunately it's not for sale. However, a friend of a friend, who is a real estate agent, told them he was contacted by the owners of that house, and that they are thinking of moving into a retirement place, closer to their children. Right now the owners say they are only gathering information to see what they could get for their house, and aren't making any definitely plans. But I think it's pretty likely they will have to move at some point. So we had our friend pass our information along to the agent, letting him know that no matter when these people decide to sell, we are interested. So we might be moving to our dream house at some point in the not so distant future. We are both so excited about the possibility.

Do Not Disturb! Spanking in Progress!

J wants to get one of these and hang it on our front door during my reminder spankings. I somehow don't think our neighbors would appreciate it. Maybe we'll just get one for the bedroom door. Anyone know where I can get one of these?

Oragami

I saw this picture today on Failblog. Stuff that looks X-rated but doesn't intend to be, always makes me laugh.

http://failblog.org/2010/06/21/epic-fail-photos-oragami-fail/

Nothing new, still pantsless

There hasn't been too much excitement here lately. J has been working a lot and I have been spring cleaning and organizing and getting rid of things we no longer need.

My weekly spankings have been consistent and typical, if there is such a thing. But there hasn't been a lot of extra time for playing.

I have been wearing a lot less pants lately, though. J has kept me pantsless for most of the past week. The only exceptions have been when I needed to leave the house, and even some of those trips I was only permitted a skirt with nothing underneath. It's kind of thrilling.

Being naked from the waist down gives J lots of easy access to those parts of me. His hands seem to be all over me all the time, which feels nice and is so sexy! So even with very little free time, we still make time to connect, even if it's brief. Sometimes it's just a quick swat on my ass, other times he plays with my pussy, which has been sopping wet for the entire week.

I'm hoping we will have more time for some fun adventures in the upcoming weeks.

There's a cock on the sink

J has definitely been in the mood to play. Tonight started out with him telling me to put on my pink skirt with the mesh (it's see through), and my black sheer shirt. He followed me around the house as I made dinner and washed the dishes, playing with and spanking my ass and tits.

After dinner J leaned me back on the couch and told me to wait. He returned with the rubber cock from my cock gag and a cyberskin dildo. He stuck the gag in my mouth and the dildo in my pussy. He spent a few minutes fucking my face with the gag, then turned his attention to my now dripping pussy. He spanked me in a playful way and fucked me with the dildo. He commanded me to suck on the gag and told me to imagine it was real. J commented about how hot it was to see me getting violated by a dildo and gag. I came in minutes, my whole body convulsing.

I was then led to the bedroom. J threw me on the bed, face first, lifted my skirt and fucked me from behind. He reached around and spanked my pussy until he came.

After we cleaned up ourselves, and our toys, I giggled as I noticed there was a cock sitting on our sink. I thought it would make an interesting picture.

This is the cock from the cock gag that I was sucking on.

My pants have been taken from me

So I'm sitting here with just a shirt on. J came home from work tonight, and immediately asked to see my pussy. I shaved today, so I'm freshly bald. As he was inspecting me, he gave me a few stingy swats on my clit. He then spent some time pinching my clit between my lips, using his thumbs. Ouch!

I can tell J is ready to get fully back into the swing of things. We've been a little lax lately; we've both been busy and tired. It's hard to keep our appointments when we're stressed out.

I always have mixed feelings about that. It's so easy for me to slip back into laziness. It's so comfortable and nice there. So I think to myself, I really don't want J to be strict with me. But then I get mad at myself for wasting a day and not doing anything. And I think to myself, J really needs to be strict with me.

It's not just laziness with myself, I get lazy and neglect J's needs as well. And I hate when I do that. So I'm craving a spanking, but also dreading it at the same time.

J had some work to do in the garage, and when he comes back in, he'll be spanking me. It's a reminder day. I'm not looking forward to the act itself, but I am looking forward to the motivation boost.

I don't know if J's planning on spanking my pussy tonight as well. It's not our normal reminder day for it, but I haven't been exactly jumping at the chance to please him lately, so I feel like I'm due a punishment in that area. There are times when I think to myself, "I should definitely be spanked for that." Of course I never say that out loud!

J made a comment last night about me needing some training. I sometimes makes things hard on him and I really don't mean to. I know there are days when I could easily take his mind off of work and stress and calm him down, but I don't. It's due to pure laziness. As much as training sounds scary, J might have a point.

He also brought up the fact that we don't play with our toys enough. We have a whole box full of them. I don't know exactly what he has in mind, but I'm sure I'll find out soon enough!

Also last night, we found a skirt for me to wear on car rides (or wherever else J wants me to wear it). It's a wrap around skirt, so it'll allow for easy access. J tells me the skirt is to remain open anytime I am wearing it in the car, and of course I won't be wearing anything underneath. We are going to try to take a short road trip this weekend to try it out. He mentioned getting on the highway so that "truckers will be able to look down and see you." [gulp].

Unmotivated

J and I were discussing how unmotivated I've been the past several weeks. He says it's because he hasn't been as focused on my behavior or my reminder spankings. I say it's just because I get lazy. It's just so easy to slip back into old habits of slacking off and not getting anything done.

We were again short on time tonight, but J did give me a thorough spanking. He used the riding crop first. He uses the end for a stingy effect and the long part for a cane-type effect.

I call that little wooden paddle the Popsicle paddle, because that's what it looks like. J made that out of some scrap wood he had in the garage a few years ago. It's light, but it stings! And since it's not huge it concentrates the sting to a small area. J must have spanked me with that for an hour! Or at least that's what it felt like. It was probably closer to 10 minutes.

I know we both have several projects coming up, and as usual J is busy with work, but we are trying not to get too far from our spanking routine. It really does make things easier and better, even if it is time consuming.