Nearly Naked in the car

Some friends of ours are away and we've been going over every night to get their mail, water their plants, pick up the paper, that sort of thing. Well tonight, J informed me that I'd be getting spanked at their house. I didn't see him pack any paddles in the car, so I didn't know at all what he had planned.

Once we picked up the mail and watered the outside flowers, J told me to go into their living room and take my pants off. While I was doing that, J seemed to be wandering around the house, looking for something. When he returned to the living room he was carrying a very thick yard stick that he found in our friends' utility room.

He bent me over the arm of the couch and gave me 7 or 8 really hard swats with the yard stick. It hurt more than I thought it would. I didn't realize how heavy the thing was. J reminded me that I have repeatedly told him I want to finish my to do list every day. And that I agreed there would be consequences when I don't.

He put the yard stick on the floor and sat in the middle of the couch. I bent over his lap and got my reminder spanking. It didn't last as long as normal, but it was more intense with quicker and harder swats. J didn't take any breaks. He just used his hand but it stung just as much as some of our implements.

It was weird being in someone else's house, in a different room than I'm normally in. It was a little bit scary and a little bit exciting. We did not stay there for very long after the spanking.

We went back out to our car and J told me to take off my bra and unbutton my shirt. I did as I was told, but wasn't sure where this was going. I sat in the passenger seat and put my seatbelt on. J made sure my shirt was fully open. It was dark, so I didn't feel too exposed. He spent the first few minutes of the drive rubbing my boobs and pinching my nipples. I was then instructed to unbutton my pants and rub my clit. But J told me not to cum. The drive between our friends' house and ours is about 15 minutes. It was a struggle to rub my clit for that long without cumming.

When we came to the first big intersection with a traffic light, I commented how bright it was. The light was red and other cars were stopping all around us. I tried to slink further down in the seat, but I could still see the reflection of my naked boob in the car window and side mirror. I'm pretty sure other people could too. I was a little bit nervous about that, but I was mostly focused on my clit by that point.

J mentioned that when we go to our friends' tomorrow he wants me to wear a skirt. He also said that we should get me a "driving outfit" which I'm sure would involve a skirt and some sort of tiny, easily accessible, or see-through shirt.

When we pulled into our driveway, J told me I could button my pants, but to leave my shirt open. I was pretty sure no one could see me, but as I stood under the porch light, I couldn't help but feel very visible.

Once we were safely inside, J removed the rest of my clothes and led me to the bedroom where I was finally allowed to cum. I am still topless and I likely will remain so until tomorrow.

Punishment vs. Play spanking

I took today's topic from the Submissive Journal Prompt website:

http://www.submissiveguide.com/journalprompts/

How do you know the difference and respond to a punishment spanking and one received during play?

The difference is easy. J tells me when I have earned a punishment, but also he is firm and definitely serious. There is no mistake when he is playing and when he's not. When we're playing the mood is lighter and it's fun. Punishments are never fun.

My response varies in that I am more serious when I'm being punished; I know it's not a joke. And I am usually wishing I had not done the thing that has earned me a spanking.

I don't really get punished very often. The reminder spankings I get 3 times a week seem to keep me out of trouble most of the time. Although there are some days, like today, where I know that I am absolutely not going to get to one of the things on my to do list. I'm about 99% sure I'll be getting a punishment spanking tomorrow in addition to my reminder spanking (eek!).

Bald Pussy

I shaved my pussy today and right afterwards, I texted J to tell him. I knew he'd appreciate the information. He texted me back telling me to strip from the waist down and that he'd be home shortly for lunch.

When he got home he examined my bald pussy and told me how nice it looked. He sat me on the couch and told me to masturbate. As I did he swatted my pussy with the back of his hand. We were right in front of a window. No one can really see in, but it still felt like I was exposed. The combination of those things made me cum in mere minutes.

There was not enough time for me to give J the same pleasure, before he had to go back to work. But I imagine that will be happening later tonight.

There's gonna be a spanking tonight

I'm sitting here dreading the spanking I know I'll be getting today. But at the same time I know I need it. My motivation level is zero.

It's mostly because I haven't been spanked in over a week. Some friends of ours decided to drive to their beach house for the week, and invited us to go along. It was all very last minute and things were hectic the few days before we left. It was all worth it; we had a fantastic time. But we could not keep to our normal spanking schedule.

So I know it's coming and I have no interest in being spanked at all. When I have a week off, it's always so hard for me to get back into things.

Tonight is pussy spanking night too. I know we both need that. We've not been able to connect intimately in ages. It seems like it's always something. I hurt or J hurts, or people are around, or there's no time, or we're too tired. Just so many things. I think the intimacy of a pussy spanking will do us some good.

Sarah Silverman a spanko?

J and I were watching Dave Letterman the other night and Sarah Silverman said she gets spanked by her boyfriend! She says he left a hand shaped bruise on her tushie.

You can watch it here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4evrd5r--w

Skipped a day

On Monday I asked J if we could skip my appointment. I've been stressed out the past few weeks and I felt like I needed a break that day. I didn't think I was in a good place, mentally or emotionally to take a spanking. J was ok with that, but said we would resume on Wednesday.

Wednesday was today and I still wasn't exactly into the idea of getting spanked, but I no longer felt like it would be emotionally bad for me like I did the other day. J asked me if I have been feeling motivated and I said no. So he asked if we should go back to every day spankings. I said definitely No!

J assured me that even though I might not be into this right now, he is going to make sure to keep up with it. Every other time we would have stopped and gotten out of the routine of spanking. And after a short time we would both be wishing we never stopped. He said this time he's not going to allow that to happen.

My J is so strong and takes such good care of me. He has been the best husband in so many ways, but lately his will to be consistent has been shining through. Hopefully that will help get me through the times when I am not interested in being spanked!

The Puppy Papers

I recently mentioned that I was reading The Puppy Papers. I just finished it tonight.

This book consists of emails between Sharon (puppy) and Steven (the Dom). As the book goes on, they're mostly just Sharon's emails to Steven. He doesn't always respond (or he just didn't publish his responses).

Steven is a very experienced Dom and is also involved in the porn business. Sharon has limited experience, but is very eager to learn.

Right away Steven stresses the importance of compassion, trust, and respect. He's also quick to state that even when he's in complete control, he is aware of his sub's headspace and safety. These are things I can appreciate that I think are important in any relationship.

Sharon is self aware and seems to be able to put her feelings into words that are relatable. She's very honest about what she wants and who she is. She is very willing to explore and learn about herself and about being a sub. She has no conflict or guilt, about what she feels, just an overwhelming desire for completeness. She says she communicates better through writing than she does in person, which is something I can relate to, as I do the same thing,

As the relationship progresses it seems like Sharon starts pushing for more of a permanent thing, but she tries to be subtle about it. She often drops hints, like saying how much she wishes they could spend more time together and she wants to serve him more often. She also mentions she'd like to serve him 24/7. He rarely returns a comment when she mentions it.

The book does insinuate bestiality, which is not something I'm into. She doesn't go into any detail about it though, so it didn't turn me off of the book.

There were times when I thought some of the stories of Sharon's past might be exaggerations, but then I think of my own life and realized I did some crazy shit when I was younger. Even dangerous things that now I can't believe I did, so it's possible it's all true.

I'd recommend the book if it's a subject you are interested in. Being all emails, it's an easy book to read. I was able to get through it pretty quickly (when I could find time to actually sit down and read).

Communication

This is the latest post on Submissive Journal Prompts
http://www.submissiveguide.com/journalprompts/

"How does your owner expect you to communicate when you are angry/upset?"

In my case I don't have an owner, but I do have a dominant husband. And he expects full honesty and open communication. Which works out great for me, not only do I value honesty, but I also tend to be blunt and uncensored sometimes.

Thankfully J and I haven't had to deal with any distrust or jealousy issues, and our communication has never been a problem. It's one of the reasons our version of DD works so well for us.

I'm nearing the end of The Puppy Papers by Puppy Sharon & Steven Toushin. I should have a report for you in the next few days.

The Puppy Papers

I recently started a new book called The Puppy Papers by Puppy Sharon & Steven Toushin. I just started it, so I don't have much to say yet.

This is the description from the back of the book:
This unique and honest story traces one middle American woman’s journey into kinky sex. After 18 years of trying to be the perfect wife, mother, church member, friend, and professional, she realizes something big is missing in her life. With a few strokes of the keyboard, she stumbles into the amazing sexual hunting grounds of the Internet, falling with eyes open into the world of adult personal ads.

As only a puppy can, she eagerly jumps into BDSM on her first real-time encounter, meeting the man who becomes her first master. With that initial taste of kinky sex, a desire that laid dormant for many years came alive so strong that there was no going back. Beginning with the man she first called master, puppy embarked upon a search for her true Master. This book is the result of six months of e-mail correspondence with her current Master, that began as He desired to know her better.

Since puppy is a quiet woman around her Master, it was only through the written word that her story emerged, eventually taking on a life of its own. puppy’s story includes memories of herself as a little girl learning about her body, her sexual awakenings in her teen years, and the maturing of her libidinal desires. There is no conflict or guilt in puppy’s story, just an overwhelming desire for completeness.

In other news, I have been going to the gym according to the schedule J has set for me, so I've avoided being grounded so far.

I've also been motivated enough to complete my to-do list every day. I even started spring cleaning and have done many extra chores. And J and I are finally going to paint the office this weekend. I'm excited to pick a new color; the current paint is dingy and dull.

Spring is here!

Grounded?

Last night I was complaining again about the fact that I keep skipping the gym. J was tired of hearing it, and he announced that I would be going back to the gym starting today, and if I don't he will ground me. When he said that, my initial response was disbelief. Ground me? Those were words I hadn't heard since I was a teenager. It sounded so weird coming from my husband.

J let me know that yes, I will be grounded if I don't get back into a gym routine. I didn't ask too many questions, but he did specify that I would be grounded from the computer, as well as getting an early bedtime. I don't know if the grounding would also include TV, phone, going out, things like that. I also don't know how long I'd be grounded for - an hour? A day? A week? I am hoping I won't find out. Being grounded would put a serious wrinkle in my day to day activities.

J's right though, without any consequences I get lazy and skip the gym. And then he has to listen to me complain about not having any energy and feeling flabby. And it's no fun to listen to someone complain about something they can easily fix.

I haven't gone yet, but I still have plenty of time. We are lucky to have a 24 hour gym, so I can still fit in a workout later this evening.

Unfinished List

For the first time in a long time, I didn't finish my to do list. I knew I'd be getting a spanking when J got home from work. I was not looking forward to it. I feel like I've been spanked a lot this week. Plus I was already scheduled to receive a reminder/maintenance spanking tonight.

For my punishment, J used the big, long wooden paddle. The one I hate the most. He gave me 2 swats on each cheek (one for each item not completed on my to do list). I didn't exactly cry, but it did bring tears to my eyes. That paddle really hurts!

A few hours later, during my reminder spanking, J let me know that he won't hesitate to spank me every day if he thinks it will help me remember to get my list completed. I immediately said "No Way!" Three times a week is enough.

Once all of that was out of the way, we had a nice start to the weekend. We had a fun time running some errands, then we spent the rest of the night cuddling and watching movies. I felt very relaxed and loved.

Happy weekend!

Bedtime Blow Job

I was feeling a bit grumpy last night at bedtime when J wanted a blow job. I said I didn't feel like it and whined about it. J does not like whining. At all. He immediately rolled me over and spanked my pussy. He reminded me that I am not allowed to tell him no. He also reminded me that the punishment for whining is getting a dick in my mouth. J feels that if I am whining, he will give me something else to occupy my mouth with. Sometimes he uses the cock gag, most times he uses his own cock.

The pussy spanking was short, but very stingy. J made sure to spank most of my very sensitive areas. He was having a bit of trouble holding open my lips to spank my clit, because of the position we were in. For a second I thought he was going to ask me to hold them open, but thankfully he didn't. I'm not sure that I would be able to actually do that knowing how much it hurts.

When J was done spanking my pussy, he guided my head down to his cock and fucked my face until he was satisfied.

My whining was pointless. All it got me was a pussy spanking. Sometimes I just can't help myself.

Why domestic discipline is not domestic violence.

I recently read this blog post by Natty over at The Punishment Book about why domestic discipline is not domestic violence.

I like how the post points out very clearly how the two are not even remotely connected. The biggest, most glaring difference is consent. There is no consent with abuse, and it is largely based on manipulation. With DD there is consent and honesty. At least there is in our household.

If you have a minute, go read Natty's great post on the subject.

The whole blog

I just re-read the whole blog from the beginning. It was interesting to see what I was feeling a couple of years ago. I'm happy J and I have been able to progress in this aspect of our relationship. We're both much better at it now, especially the consistency part of it. I give J all the credit for that. He has not let us slide back into laziness when it comes to our spanking schedule and other aspects of our version of DD. I'm not sure it will ever sound "normal" for me to say I have a spanking schedule.

Even with the spankings, I sometimes find myself sitting here staring at my list, feeling lazy, wondering if it would be worth it just to get spanked. At the end of every day it seems like I have that one thing on my to do list that I just do not feel like doing. I think to myself, "I could just not do it." But then I think of how it feels to be spanked as a punishment. Most of the time, I ultimately complete my to do list. Maybe that means the reminder spankings are working.

Bent over the chair

Tonight was just like any other night when I decided to ask J, "Are we having our appointment today?"

He looked over at me, surprised, "Why wouldn't we?"

"I don't know. I just don't feel like it."

Without hesitation J commanded, "Stand up."

I did as instructed.

J guided me over the chair, pulled my pants down and started spanking with quick, sharp swats. After just a few minutes, he pulled my pants back up and stood me up again.

He then told me to get on my knees, which I did quickly. He guided my head down to his cock. After he came, he told me we could cancel the reminder spanking.

I guess that was one way to tell me. ha. ha.

Submissive Journal Prompts

I've been having some trouble coming up with things to write about. I feel like I'm writing about the same spanking over and over. So, I did some searching online for some ideas awhile back and I came across this site. I forgot about it until today when I was going through some old bookmarks. It's called Submissive Journal Prompts: http://www.submissiveguide.com/journalprompts/

The prompt today is about blogging and it says this: "If you have an online blog, this would be a good week to reintroduce yourself to your readers." So that's what I thought I would do.

My name is Cassady and I'm a spanko. I've had an interest in spanking for as long as I can remember, but it was always a sexual thing. Over the years I've been able to find tons of information, thanks to the Internet, about spanking, different lifestyles, BDSM, DD, and many other things that interest me. When I met J he had never spanked anyone. He is a gentle soul, and I was afraid he wouldn't be able to step into any sort of dominant role. But if you've been reading this blog you know he is a natural.

We've taken aspects from different schools of thought, and have found things we really like and that work well for us. We have stopped and started trying to live our own version of DD many times. Somehow it seems like we stop for a specific reason (house guests, illness, laziness, etc.) and never start back up again. But we are both happier when we could keep up with it. This last time we started, we both decided we would make a commitment to make it a priority. And so far that's been working out great.

I get regular spankings 3 times a week. We usually call them reminder spankings because the purpose is to remind me to finish my to-do list every day, stay motivated, and submit to J. It also reminds me what the consequences are of not doing those things. I also get weekly pussy spankings. This further aids in my submissiveness.

This is all done with my permission and at my request. J is so very loving and attentive, I could never dream of someone else I'd want to be married to. And he cares enough to discipline me when I need it.

Feel free to introduce yourself in the comments or send me an email.

Pussy Punishment

J and I had a very nice, relaxing weekend where we got to spend a lot of time just being together. There was one point where I was a bit of a brat and wouldn't expose my tits when J asked. He reminded me that was a no no and asked if I wanted my pussy spanked. Of course I said no.

Since he didn't spank me right then, I figured the incident had been forgotten about, but tonight after my regular reminder spanking, J told me to flip over onto my back. He reminded me that I was due a punishment spanking on my pussy for refusing him this weekend.

He whipped my pussy with a small strap, while lecturing me on whose pussy it is and how I agreed to submit to him. This was my first pussy punishment and I thought it would be a lot worse. When I get my ass spanked for punishment it's way worse than a reminder spanking. But the pussy punishment was not nearly as bad as the weekly reminders I get. Although at one point he spread my lips wide and was spanking directly on my clit. That hurt a lot.

J then started using his thumb to play with my clit during the spanking. He was doing both at the same time. I asked him why he was making me feel good, when it was supposed to hurt, but he said I shouldn't tell him how to play with his toy. He's right, so I didn't object further. Overall it felt more like a game than a serious spanking.

He didn't let me cum at that time, and the spanking didn't last very long. When it was over, we cuddled for a few minutes. It always feels so right being in his arms.

I'm quite happy with the way we've been progressing and keeping up with our version of DD. Every other time we've tried it, we ended up stopping and months would go by before we'd start again. J has been great about maintaining consistency and a level of strictness. He doesn't let me get away with much. For the most part I get my things done every day and don't get punished very often. And that definitely feels good.

Many implements

I came into the bedroom and saw all of these implements laying out on the bed.



I knew tonight I was going to be spanked on my ass and also on my pussy. For various reasons that seemed to happen one right after the other, it has been a long time since I've had my pussy spanked.

I was first told to lay on my stomach. J sat next to me on the bed and began to spank me with his hand. He switched on and off with the strap, ruler, and other implements pictured above. At one point he spanked each cheek hard, very quickly, one right after the other. It seemed to go on forever. My ass was on fire.

We discussed the usual topics during the spanking. The reasons for the spanking, understanding the rules and consequences, if these reminder spankings help me get things done, and what I need to do to avoid punishment.

Once that was over he had me flip onto my back. He started right in, using his hand at first. He also used one of the small leather slappers. J lectured me more than usual tonight during my pussy spanking. He was very stern. I felt like he was in a very strict mode and I also felt like he would not abuse that role and he would take care of me. He thoroughly spanked my pussy and lips. He even spanked inside my lips, on the very sensitive part. He used the ruler on my pussy and also on my nipples. It stung and I know I squirmed a lot.

I feel very submissive immediately after a pussy spanking. I guess that's the idea. Thing is, it wears off pretty quickly. The submissive feeling. Not totally, but mostly.

Tonight, right after my spanking, J did an inspection of my pussy. He checked to make sure there were no marks or bruising. I feel so exposed when he does his examinations.

He then started playing with my clit. At one point I asked him to move his thumb to a different position. He asked me if I was trying to tell him how to play with his toy. And he said, "Didn't we just talk about whose toy this is?" Yes, yes, we did.

I was close to cuming, but he stopped and said that wasn't the time for that. I hopped in the shower and thought about finishing myself off, but I wasn't sure if I should. We have no set rule about me cuming. Generally I just cum whenever I want. So I thought I would wait and mention it later. When I did J said I could use my favorite toy tonight to come before I go to bed. I am looking forward to that. I couldn't wait though. Just a little while ago I used my hand while still in the office. I just couldn't wait for the release.

Velcro Underwear

I was punished again today for not completing an item on my to do list. It's nearly always the same item - not practicing my guitar. I really do want to play the guitar, I just hate the practicing and learning part. I get so frustrated when I can do it perfectly right away. So I didn't do it yesterday and J spanked me for it. I got several really hard swats with the strap before he continued spanking me for my regular reminder spanking. At one point J pulled my ass cheek to one side and spanked the inner part. I can't recall if he's ever done that before. It stung!

I worked on an interesting project today. Awhile back I read somewhere that a man made his wife wear underwear with velcro on the inside anytime she received a spanking. Mostly it was for when she got spanked as a reminder right before they went out somewhere, she'd wear this special underwear so that anytime she moved, the rough part of the velcro rubbed on her already hurting ass. It was to serve as a constant reminder throughout the night.

Well I've never seen any velcro underwear for sale anywhere, so J asked me to make some. I took a pair of my own underwear and bought enough velcro to cover the back part AND the front part. This was also J's idea. That way when I am required to wear it, it will rub on my ass and my pussy. I just finished it today, so I haven't had a chance to wear it yet. I'm hoping I don't have to wear it for a long time, because it looks very uncomfortable. When I am eventually required to wear it, I'll be sure to blog about it.

Punished Again!

I don't know what it is with me, but anytime there is anything different in my schedule (like J gets home from work early, or I am not here when he gets home, etc.) I forget to show him my completed to do list.

I forgot again today and J had to ask me for it. After I showed him the list, he reminded me that I am to show him the list every day when he gets home from work. He led me into the bedroom, pulled my pants down, and had me lay on my stomach on the bed.

We recently got some new implements and J decided to use this new one today:



It's essentially just a belt sewn together at the end. J says it gives him a good amount of control when he swings it.

It feels just like any other belt and it stings. I felt more defiant today, and slightly irritated. It's sometimes hard to see what the big deal is. My list was all finished, so that should be that. But J's point is that he doesn't know it's done if he doesn't see it, with everything all checked off.

The spanking wasn't very long, but he lectured me the whole time. He finished up with a few really hard swats to my ass with his hand. Then it was over.

Tomorrow I will remember...