Just a picture for now

I hate that I have been neglecting this blog. I just have not had any time to devote to it lately. And with J being gone so much we have been neglecting each other as well.

Since I have a spare second tonight, I thought I would stop in and say hi very quickly.

Hi. (very quickly).

I'll leave you with this picture I found somewhere on the Internet. I think it's super cute.

Face Slapping

Awhile ago I started commenting on an article I saved. As I've mentioned, I do not know the origin of this article, so if any of it sounds familiar to you, please send me a message or leave me a comment.

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One topic the Article Guy (AG) discusses is Face Slapping.

AG says he does not use face slapping regularly with his wife, but he did find it effective in the beginning of their DD relationship. He says when he does utilize it, he never slaps hard, it's more about the submission than causing any pain. He advises not to slap much harder than how you would pat a baby's back. You can "do it a few times to really get her attention". He says to be careful of the cheek bone and to stick with the fleshy parts of the cheek. AG noticed his wife became instantly submissive when he would slap her face.

With his wife kneeling in front of him AG "cups my wife's chin and make her look at me. I slap her cheeks and scold her at the same time."

AG says his wife finds this very humbling.

I can see how it would be.

J slaps my face sometimes. It's always when I'm in a submissive state, like during a weekly pussy spanking. He never has and never would do it in anger. We both agree that would be crossing a line. He's never slapped me hard, it's more startling and attention-getting than anything else.

Next time I need to be scolded, maybe J will try AG's kneeling technique.

So how do you feel about face slapping?

I need to be spanked!

I hate saying those words. But it's true. There hasn't been a spanking here in weeks. And for once, it's not because one of us didn't want to. It's been a timing issue.

There was a training class in a nearby city that J might have had to been a part of. It was looking like he wasn't going to have to go, but at the last minute he was told he was needed. It's not far, only about an hour and a half drive each way, so he is home every night. But with 3 hours of extra driving time and 9 hours of training, he mostly just eats and sleeps when he is home.

He's been going for 3 weeks and has another 3 to go.

We'll both be glad when it's over. J commented last night how quickly we fall out of the routine when it gets disturbed. I know that I so easily slipped back into total laziness. I haven't been getting anything done, which is how I know I need to be spanked.

Although, I'm sure 4 weeks from now, after my ass is nice and red, I will be complaining that I don't want to be spanked. ha. ha.

4th of July fireworks

J and I decided to stay home and create our own fireworks on the 4th. We usually go to the park downtown, but they were expecting rain and huge crowds, so we decided to skip it. Instead we made a bunch of snacks, rented some movies, and got a bottle of wine.

We were laying on the couch, neither of us wearing much. J nodded toward his dick and said, "Why don't you get your head down there right now?" He said it in a half playful, half serious way.

When I hesitated, he flipped me over on my back and gave my pussy a few quick slaps that stung. That got me motivated. I took him in my mouth and put on a performance for him that went back and forth between sexy and silly, which fit the mood perfectly.

Later J looked at me and said, "I want you to cum. Right now."

I protested, "I can't cum on cue!"

He told me to try. So I started masturbating furiously as he spanked my pussy. He kept saying "cum now".

I didn't cum instantly, but it was probably quicker than ever before. And I think I may have seen some fireworks behind my eyes.

We restarted the movie we had been watching, refilled our wine glasses, and cuddled for the rest of the night. Way better than the fireworks in the park!

Consistent Spankings

I have this exfoliating scrubby thing in the shower that I like to use once or twice a week.

It used to be that I'd use the scrubby thing when there were going to be multiple days between my spankings. The surface is rough and it hurts when I rub it across my freshly spanked ass.

But now, since I get spanked three times a week, there is no more multiple days between spankings. So I've been having to exfoliating on my freshly spanked ass a couple of times a week. Not fun.

Even though J and I have have been running a million different directions these past few weeks, he has made sure not to miss any of our spanking appointments. It's pretty much the only thing that's been consistent around here.

I think he might be taking those times to get out some frustration, as well, because lately he's been using more and more implements at one time and the spankings seem to be lasting a lot longer.

I've been keeping up with my list very well, so I haven't been punished for quite some time. And J has been pleased with my level of motivation.

I have been getting my weekly pussy spankings, but other than that we haven't worked very much on my submission. There just hasn't been time.

We did get some potentially good news this week. There is a house a few miles from us that J and I are in love with. We got to see the inside of it once and we both wanted to buy it. Unfortunately it's not for sale. However, a friend of a friend, who is a real estate agent, told them he was contacted by the owners of that house, and that they are thinking of moving into a retirement place, closer to their children. Right now the owners say they are only gathering information to see what they could get for their house, and aren't making any definitely plans. But I think it's pretty likely they will have to move at some point. So we had our friend pass our information along to the agent, letting him know that no matter when these people decide to sell, we are interested. So we might be moving to our dream house at some point in the not so distant future. We are both so excited about the possibility.

Do Not Disturb! Spanking in Progress!

J wants to get one of these and hang it on our front door during my reminder spankings. I somehow don't think our neighbors would appreciate it. Maybe we'll just get one for the bedroom door. Anyone know where I can get one of these?

Oragami

I saw this picture today on Failblog. Stuff that looks X-rated but doesn't intend to be, always makes me laugh.

http://failblog.org/2010/06/21/epic-fail-photos-oragami-fail/

Nothing new, still pantsless

There hasn't been too much excitement here lately. J has been working a lot and I have been spring cleaning and organizing and getting rid of things we no longer need.

My weekly spankings have been consistent and typical, if there is such a thing. But there hasn't been a lot of extra time for playing.

I have been wearing a lot less pants lately, though. J has kept me pantsless for most of the past week. The only exceptions have been when I needed to leave the house, and even some of those trips I was only permitted a skirt with nothing underneath. It's kind of thrilling.

Being naked from the waist down gives J lots of easy access to those parts of me. His hands seem to be all over me all the time, which feels nice and is so sexy! So even with very little free time, we still make time to connect, even if it's brief. Sometimes it's just a quick swat on my ass, other times he plays with my pussy, which has been sopping wet for the entire week.

I'm hoping we will have more time for some fun adventures in the upcoming weeks.

There's a cock on the sink

J has definitely been in the mood to play. Tonight started out with him telling me to put on my pink skirt with the mesh (it's see through), and my black sheer shirt. He followed me around the house as I made dinner and washed the dishes, playing with and spanking my ass and tits.

After dinner J leaned me back on the couch and told me to wait. He returned with the rubber cock from my cock gag and a cyberskin dildo. He stuck the gag in my mouth and the dildo in my pussy. He spent a few minutes fucking my face with the gag, then turned his attention to my now dripping pussy. He spanked me in a playful way and fucked me with the dildo. He commanded me to suck on the gag and told me to imagine it was real. J commented about how hot it was to see me getting violated by a dildo and gag. I came in minutes, my whole body convulsing.

I was then led to the bedroom. J threw me on the bed, face first, lifted my skirt and fucked me from behind. He reached around and spanked my pussy until he came.

After we cleaned up ourselves, and our toys, I giggled as I noticed there was a cock sitting on our sink. I thought it would make an interesting picture.

This is the cock from the cock gag that I was sucking on.

My pants have been taken from me

So I'm sitting here with just a shirt on. J came home from work tonight, and immediately asked to see my pussy. I shaved today, so I'm freshly bald. As he was inspecting me, he gave me a few stingy swats on my clit. He then spent some time pinching my clit between my lips, using his thumbs. Ouch!

I can tell J is ready to get fully back into the swing of things. We've been a little lax lately; we've both been busy and tired. It's hard to keep our appointments when we're stressed out.

I always have mixed feelings about that. It's so easy for me to slip back into laziness. It's so comfortable and nice there. So I think to myself, I really don't want J to be strict with me. But then I get mad at myself for wasting a day and not doing anything. And I think to myself, J really needs to be strict with me.

It's not just laziness with myself, I get lazy and neglect J's needs as well. And I hate when I do that. So I'm craving a spanking, but also dreading it at the same time.

J had some work to do in the garage, and when he comes back in, he'll be spanking me. It's a reminder day. I'm not looking forward to the act itself, but I am looking forward to the motivation boost.

I don't know if J's planning on spanking my pussy tonight as well. It's not our normal reminder day for it, but I haven't been exactly jumping at the chance to please him lately, so I feel like I'm due a punishment in that area. There are times when I think to myself, "I should definitely be spanked for that." Of course I never say that out loud!

J made a comment last night about me needing some training. I sometimes makes things hard on him and I really don't mean to. I know there are days when I could easily take his mind off of work and stress and calm him down, but I don't. It's due to pure laziness. As much as training sounds scary, J might have a point.

He also brought up the fact that we don't play with our toys enough. We have a whole box full of them. I don't know exactly what he has in mind, but I'm sure I'll find out soon enough!

Also last night, we found a skirt for me to wear on car rides (or wherever else J wants me to wear it). It's a wrap around skirt, so it'll allow for easy access. J tells me the skirt is to remain open anytime I am wearing it in the car, and of course I won't be wearing anything underneath. We are going to try to take a short road trip this weekend to try it out. He mentioned getting on the highway so that "truckers will be able to look down and see you." [gulp].

Unmotivated

J and I were discussing how unmotivated I've been the past several weeks. He says it's because he hasn't been as focused on my behavior or my reminder spankings. I say it's just because I get lazy. It's just so easy to slip back into old habits of slacking off and not getting anything done.

We were again short on time tonight, but J did give me a thorough spanking. He used the riding crop first. He uses the end for a stingy effect and the long part for a cane-type effect.

I call that little wooden paddle the Popsicle paddle, because that's what it looks like. J made that out of some scrap wood he had in the garage a few years ago. It's light, but it stings! And since it's not huge it concentrates the sting to a small area. J must have spanked me with that for an hour! Or at least that's what it felt like. It was probably closer to 10 minutes.

I know we both have several projects coming up, and as usual J is busy with work, but we are trying not to get too far from our spanking routine. It really does make things easier and better, even if it is time consuming.

Nearly Naked in the car

Some friends of ours are away and we've been going over every night to get their mail, water their plants, pick up the paper, that sort of thing. Well tonight, J informed me that I'd be getting spanked at their house. I didn't see him pack any paddles in the car, so I didn't know at all what he had planned.

Once we picked up the mail and watered the outside flowers, J told me to go into their living room and take my pants off. While I was doing that, J seemed to be wandering around the house, looking for something. When he returned to the living room he was carrying a very thick yard stick that he found in our friends' utility room.

He bent me over the arm of the couch and gave me 7 or 8 really hard swats with the yard stick. It hurt more than I thought it would. I didn't realize how heavy the thing was. J reminded me that I have repeatedly told him I want to finish my to do list every day. And that I agreed there would be consequences when I don't.

He put the yard stick on the floor and sat in the middle of the couch. I bent over his lap and got my reminder spanking. It didn't last as long as normal, but it was more intense with quicker and harder swats. J didn't take any breaks. He just used his hand but it stung just as much as some of our implements.

It was weird being in someone else's house, in a different room than I'm normally in. It was a little bit scary and a little bit exciting. We did not stay there for very long after the spanking.

We went back out to our car and J told me to take off my bra and unbutton my shirt. I did as I was told, but wasn't sure where this was going. I sat in the passenger seat and put my seatbelt on. J made sure my shirt was fully open. It was dark, so I didn't feel too exposed. He spent the first few minutes of the drive rubbing my boobs and pinching my nipples. I was then instructed to unbutton my pants and rub my clit. But J told me not to cum. The drive between our friends' house and ours is about 15 minutes. It was a struggle to rub my clit for that long without cumming.

When we came to the first big intersection with a traffic light, I commented how bright it was. The light was red and other cars were stopping all around us. I tried to slink further down in the seat, but I could still see the reflection of my naked boob in the car window and side mirror. I'm pretty sure other people could too. I was a little bit nervous about that, but I was mostly focused on my clit by that point.

J mentioned that when we go to our friends' tomorrow he wants me to wear a skirt. He also said that we should get me a "driving outfit" which I'm sure would involve a skirt and some sort of tiny, easily accessible, or see-through shirt.

When we pulled into our driveway, J told me I could button my pants, but to leave my shirt open. I was pretty sure no one could see me, but as I stood under the porch light, I couldn't help but feel very visible.

Once we were safely inside, J removed the rest of my clothes and led me to the bedroom where I was finally allowed to cum. I am still topless and I likely will remain so until tomorrow.

Punishment vs. Play spanking

I took today's topic from the Submissive Journal Prompt website:

http://www.submissiveguide.com/journalprompts/

How do you know the difference and respond to a punishment spanking and one received during play?

The difference is easy. J tells me when I have earned a punishment, but also he is firm and definitely serious. There is no mistake when he is playing and when he's not. When we're playing the mood is lighter and it's fun. Punishments are never fun.

My response varies in that I am more serious when I'm being punished; I know it's not a joke. And I am usually wishing I had not done the thing that has earned me a spanking.

I don't really get punished very often. The reminder spankings I get 3 times a week seem to keep me out of trouble most of the time. Although there are some days, like today, where I know that I am absolutely not going to get to one of the things on my to do list. I'm about 99% sure I'll be getting a punishment spanking tomorrow in addition to my reminder spanking (eek!).

Bald Pussy

I shaved my pussy today and right afterwards, I texted J to tell him. I knew he'd appreciate the information. He texted me back telling me to strip from the waist down and that he'd be home shortly for lunch.

When he got home he examined my bald pussy and told me how nice it looked. He sat me on the couch and told me to masturbate. As I did he swatted my pussy with the back of his hand. We were right in front of a window. No one can really see in, but it still felt like I was exposed. The combination of those things made me cum in mere minutes.

There was not enough time for me to give J the same pleasure, before he had to go back to work. But I imagine that will be happening later tonight.

There's gonna be a spanking tonight

I'm sitting here dreading the spanking I know I'll be getting today. But at the same time I know I need it. My motivation level is zero.

It's mostly because I haven't been spanked in over a week. Some friends of ours decided to drive to their beach house for the week, and invited us to go along. It was all very last minute and things were hectic the few days before we left. It was all worth it; we had a fantastic time. But we could not keep to our normal spanking schedule.

So I know it's coming and I have no interest in being spanked at all. When I have a week off, it's always so hard for me to get back into things.

Tonight is pussy spanking night too. I know we both need that. We've not been able to connect intimately in ages. It seems like it's always something. I hurt or J hurts, or people are around, or there's no time, or we're too tired. Just so many things. I think the intimacy of a pussy spanking will do us some good.

Sarah Silverman a spanko?

J and I were watching Dave Letterman the other night and Sarah Silverman said she gets spanked by her boyfriend! She says he left a hand shaped bruise on her tushie.

You can watch it here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4evrd5r--w

Skipped a day

On Monday I asked J if we could skip my appointment. I've been stressed out the past few weeks and I felt like I needed a break that day. I didn't think I was in a good place, mentally or emotionally to take a spanking. J was ok with that, but said we would resume on Wednesday.

Wednesday was today and I still wasn't exactly into the idea of getting spanked, but I no longer felt like it would be emotionally bad for me like I did the other day. J asked me if I have been feeling motivated and I said no. So he asked if we should go back to every day spankings. I said definitely No!

J assured me that even though I might not be into this right now, he is going to make sure to keep up with it. Every other time we would have stopped and gotten out of the routine of spanking. And after a short time we would both be wishing we never stopped. He said this time he's not going to allow that to happen.

My J is so strong and takes such good care of me. He has been the best husband in so many ways, but lately his will to be consistent has been shining through. Hopefully that will help get me through the times when I am not interested in being spanked!

The Puppy Papers

I recently mentioned that I was reading The Puppy Papers. I just finished it tonight.

This book consists of emails between Sharon (puppy) and Steven (the Dom). As the book goes on, they're mostly just Sharon's emails to Steven. He doesn't always respond (or he just didn't publish his responses).

Steven is a very experienced Dom and is also involved in the porn business. Sharon has limited experience, but is very eager to learn.

Right away Steven stresses the importance of compassion, trust, and respect. He's also quick to state that even when he's in complete control, he is aware of his sub's headspace and safety. These are things I can appreciate that I think are important in any relationship.

Sharon is self aware and seems to be able to put her feelings into words that are relatable. She's very honest about what she wants and who she is. She is very willing to explore and learn about herself and about being a sub. She has no conflict or guilt, about what she feels, just an overwhelming desire for completeness. She says she communicates better through writing than she does in person, which is something I can relate to, as I do the same thing,

As the relationship progresses it seems like Sharon starts pushing for more of a permanent thing, but she tries to be subtle about it. She often drops hints, like saying how much she wishes they could spend more time together and she wants to serve him more often. She also mentions she'd like to serve him 24/7. He rarely returns a comment when she mentions it.

The book does insinuate bestiality, which is not something I'm into. She doesn't go into any detail about it though, so it didn't turn me off of the book.

There were times when I thought some of the stories of Sharon's past might be exaggerations, but then I think of my own life and realized I did some crazy shit when I was younger. Even dangerous things that now I can't believe I did, so it's possible it's all true.

I'd recommend the book if it's a subject you are interested in. Being all emails, it's an easy book to read. I was able to get through it pretty quickly (when I could find time to actually sit down and read).

Communication

This is the latest post on Submissive Journal Prompts
http://www.submissiveguide.com/journalprompts/

"How does your owner expect you to communicate when you are angry/upset?"

In my case I don't have an owner, but I do have a dominant husband. And he expects full honesty and open communication. Which works out great for me, not only do I value honesty, but I also tend to be blunt and uncensored sometimes.

Thankfully J and I haven't had to deal with any distrust or jealousy issues, and our communication has never been a problem. It's one of the reasons our version of DD works so well for us.

I'm nearing the end of The Puppy Papers by Puppy Sharon & Steven Toushin. I should have a report for you in the next few days.

The Puppy Papers

I recently started a new book called The Puppy Papers by Puppy Sharon & Steven Toushin. I just started it, so I don't have much to say yet.

This is the description from the back of the book:
This unique and honest story traces one middle American woman’s journey into kinky sex. After 18 years of trying to be the perfect wife, mother, church member, friend, and professional, she realizes something big is missing in her life. With a few strokes of the keyboard, she stumbles into the amazing sexual hunting grounds of the Internet, falling with eyes open into the world of adult personal ads.

As only a puppy can, she eagerly jumps into BDSM on her first real-time encounter, meeting the man who becomes her first master. With that initial taste of kinky sex, a desire that laid dormant for many years came alive so strong that there was no going back. Beginning with the man she first called master, puppy embarked upon a search for her true Master. This book is the result of six months of e-mail correspondence with her current Master, that began as He desired to know her better.

Since puppy is a quiet woman around her Master, it was only through the written word that her story emerged, eventually taking on a life of its own. puppy’s story includes memories of herself as a little girl learning about her body, her sexual awakenings in her teen years, and the maturing of her libidinal desires. There is no conflict or guilt in puppy’s story, just an overwhelming desire for completeness.

In other news, I have been going to the gym according to the schedule J has set for me, so I've avoided being grounded so far.

I've also been motivated enough to complete my to-do list every day. I even started spring cleaning and have done many extra chores. And J and I are finally going to paint the office this weekend. I'm excited to pick a new color; the current paint is dingy and dull.

Spring is here!